Hi,
This is my first post on this forum as I don't know where to start?
I have noticed recently that my 76 year mother has become quite forgetful and will ask the same question several times during a conversation, even though you may have answered her several times already.
When her and my dad go out together, dad waits in the car whilst mum checks and rechecks if the gas is turned off, or the windows closed or whether she has her purse and so on.
Or when they go shopping she will ask several times, if they need a certain food item within an couple of minutes and not recall asking previously.
My dad has raised this with me in confidence several times about the way mum is and I have tried to get him to make a doctors appointment, but without success. Now dad does not acknowledge when mum is repetitive during conversation and just ignores it, choosing not to deal with it. Now, other family members have noticed over Christmas the way mum is and have been talking about it and this has upset dad. Whenever I mention to dad privately about getting an appointment for mum, he just says, "I can't do it, its my wife, she will never forgive me". I know it is hurting him inside having to deal with this, but how do I get him to do something?
Where do I go from here? Can I speak to their doctor in confidence or do I get dad to confront mum about it and see if they will go together with me to the doctors?
Sorry for the long post, but I just needed to get it off my chest.
Thanks, Kendo.
This is my first post on this forum as I don't know where to start?
I have noticed recently that my 76 year mother has become quite forgetful and will ask the same question several times during a conversation, even though you may have answered her several times already.
When her and my dad go out together, dad waits in the car whilst mum checks and rechecks if the gas is turned off, or the windows closed or whether she has her purse and so on.
Or when they go shopping she will ask several times, if they need a certain food item within an couple of minutes and not recall asking previously.
My dad has raised this with me in confidence several times about the way mum is and I have tried to get him to make a doctors appointment, but without success. Now dad does not acknowledge when mum is repetitive during conversation and just ignores it, choosing not to deal with it. Now, other family members have noticed over Christmas the way mum is and have been talking about it and this has upset dad. Whenever I mention to dad privately about getting an appointment for mum, he just says, "I can't do it, its my wife, she will never forgive me". I know it is hurting him inside having to deal with this, but how do I get him to do something?
Where do I go from here? Can I speak to their doctor in confidence or do I get dad to confront mum about it and see if they will go together with me to the doctors?
Sorry for the long post, but I just needed to get it off my chest.
Thanks, Kendo.