Hi,
I'd be really grateful for any advice you can give. My mother who lives alone, was diagnosed with Alzheimer's three years ago. We'd had carers visit 3 times a day but she's been going downhill rapidly over the last few months and often refused to let the carers in. After a few incidences recently we decided for her own safety she'd have to go into residential care.
We found a lovely (private) home and moved her in two weeks ago. To our amazement she's settled in really quickly, loving the attention, company and being looked after. All good. But when we visit she changes. She swears at us and throws things accusing me of killing her dog and demanding we take her home. Once we leave she once again settles down and doesn't mention us or going home.
My question is should we continue to visit - which upsets her - or leave her for a few weeks to settle in? It seems so difficult to know what to do.
I'd be really grateful for any advice you can give. My mother who lives alone, was diagnosed with Alzheimer's three years ago. We'd had carers visit 3 times a day but she's been going downhill rapidly over the last few months and often refused to let the carers in. After a few incidences recently we decided for her own safety she'd have to go into residential care.
We found a lovely (private) home and moved her in two weeks ago. To our amazement she's settled in really quickly, loving the attention, company and being looked after. All good. But when we visit she changes. She swears at us and throws things accusing me of killing her dog and demanding we take her home. Once we leave she once again settles down and doesn't mention us or going home.
My question is should we continue to visit - which upsets her - or leave her for a few weeks to settle in? It seems so difficult to know what to do.