My Mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's last year after several years knowing and not wanting to know that this was going to happen, In the last year my mother has had various mood swings initially due to her meds not being right or effective, this has since been corrected which was difficult time during the first lock down of 2020.
Just to set the scene my mother is 76 years old my father is 79 years old is now effectively become my mum's carer,
My mum has always had interests like cooking, and always kept on top of things around the home, my dad tends to do mostly all the cooking & cleaning now, my mother has started forget how to do certain tasks although still enjoys and has actively got back into personal things such as knitting / needle work things,
My dad says that she often is in denial that she has Alzheimer's to him although she seems ok when we call as family, this may only be 1 or 2 hours at any one time.
The situation we have at the moment is with regards her driving, she was passed off by the doctor & DVLA to continue to drive although on couple of occasions has burnt out the clutch on the car slight damage when being out driving, Her dad is concerned that she has forgotten how to drive and when she is in the car she has to think as if on a driving lesson or learning how to drive , she will use the wrong feet for pedals which he has noted when being with her in the car, The issue is she will hide the keys , but also keeps saying that it’s the car , that their something wrong with the car , she often looks at the possibility of having an automatic of which they can’t afford to buy a new car,
My father is very anxious as my mum can be very nasty towards him if he tries to help or questions her thinking but as a family we are really concerned as we feel if she does try to go out in the Car, she could injury herself or someone else.
The fact is we feel as a family that her licence needs to be revoked but this needs to be done in an indirect way so not impacting my father as he will be seen to be blamed, probably from a doctor to the DVLA.
I hope someone can advise or help where a similar situation where this has happened.
Thanks
Shawn
Just to set the scene my mother is 76 years old my father is 79 years old is now effectively become my mum's carer,
My mum has always had interests like cooking, and always kept on top of things around the home, my dad tends to do mostly all the cooking & cleaning now, my mother has started forget how to do certain tasks although still enjoys and has actively got back into personal things such as knitting / needle work things,
My dad says that she often is in denial that she has Alzheimer's to him although she seems ok when we call as family, this may only be 1 or 2 hours at any one time.
The situation we have at the moment is with regards her driving, she was passed off by the doctor & DVLA to continue to drive although on couple of occasions has burnt out the clutch on the car slight damage when being out driving, Her dad is concerned that she has forgotten how to drive and when she is in the car she has to think as if on a driving lesson or learning how to drive , she will use the wrong feet for pedals which he has noted when being with her in the car, The issue is she will hide the keys , but also keeps saying that it’s the car , that their something wrong with the car , she often looks at the possibility of having an automatic of which they can’t afford to buy a new car,
My father is very anxious as my mum can be very nasty towards him if he tries to help or questions her thinking but as a family we are really concerned as we feel if she does try to go out in the Car, she could injury herself or someone else.
The fact is we feel as a family that her licence needs to be revoked but this needs to be done in an indirect way so not impacting my father as he will be seen to be blamed, probably from a doctor to the DVLA.
I hope someone can advise or help where a similar situation where this has happened.
Thanks
Shawn