hi
am new to this so be prepared or me to pour my heart out,sorry in advance!!
My mum was diagnosed back in May at the age of 60.She did own 2 hotels but lost them due to not paying a bill in years. So as well as this horrible illness, I am having to sort out all her debt.
Its so sad to see someone you love go from life'n'soul to someone who is scared to be left alone for anytime.
She is in a rented flat on benefits after working so hard all her life,its hard to take and at times I get so upset.
She goes out trying to look for her hotels,we have an careline alarm on the door so I can get to her as quick as I can(thankgod for an understanding hubby,he has my 2 little boys more than ever now!)There has been times I havent got there in time and she has fallen and I end up feeling so guilty,last time she split her head. On the back of this my sisters(who hardly see her)and social services have insisted she goes in a home. How do I put my lovely mum in one of those places?? I have found a young dementia unit in St Helens which she is going into in the next few weeks. I have put it off for weeks,covering up her behaviour,not telling anyone when am there four times during the night...Telling everyone she is not too bad,I even believe myself at times! Well,I dont know how am going to walk her into that place but I will have to.
On the postive side we have a fantastic CPN who I owe so much to.Also I have had some really special times with my mum and I feel privileged to have took care of her and although I am exhausted I would do it all over again in a heartbeat!
Told you I would pour my heart out,sorry if I have bored you!
Lisa.x
am new to this so be prepared or me to pour my heart out,sorry in advance!!
My mum was diagnosed back in May at the age of 60.She did own 2 hotels but lost them due to not paying a bill in years. So as well as this horrible illness, I am having to sort out all her debt.
Its so sad to see someone you love go from life'n'soul to someone who is scared to be left alone for anytime.
She is in a rented flat on benefits after working so hard all her life,its hard to take and at times I get so upset.
She goes out trying to look for her hotels,we have an careline alarm on the door so I can get to her as quick as I can(thankgod for an understanding hubby,he has my 2 little boys more than ever now!)There has been times I havent got there in time and she has fallen and I end up feeling so guilty,last time she split her head. On the back of this my sisters(who hardly see her)and social services have insisted she goes in a home. How do I put my lovely mum in one of those places?? I have found a young dementia unit in St Helens which she is going into in the next few weeks. I have put it off for weeks,covering up her behaviour,not telling anyone when am there four times during the night...Telling everyone she is not too bad,I even believe myself at times! Well,I dont know how am going to walk her into that place but I will have to.
On the postive side we have a fantastic CPN who I owe so much to.Also I have had some really special times with my mum and I feel privileged to have took care of her and although I am exhausted I would do it all over again in a heartbeat!
Told you I would pour my heart out,sorry if I have bored you!
Lisa.x