Hi there, Just found this forum and seen that a lot of people are going through similar experiences to us. We have an aunt who's been diagnosed with Alzheimers and whose deterioration has been fairly rapid over the last six months or so. She lives alone and social services have just held a meeting about her care (we live about 1 hour away) where the doctor involved called us and said we should think about a care home but the social workers/carers seem to want to keep her at home getting her a personal alarm and checking on her three times a day. We would be happier if she was in a care home near where we live but she is adamant (when she is lucid) that she wants to stay in her house. She doesn't eat or wash properly, is depressed, has started small fires and been burgled before and is on an enhanced CPA. Does anybody know what happens if this stand off continues? We feel social services are waiting (why? I don't know) for her to have an accident and be hospitalised before they will consider a care home. Has anyone else had to resolve this situation where a person who is otherwise not considered capable, is allowed to decide to stay in their own home to the dtriment of their existence? Any comments would be of interest.