Hi All,
My partner and I have been caring for my mother who has early to mid dementia after the sudden death of my father some 3 months ago. My parents live in a town 12 miles away and although I was always visiting at least 3 times a week and could see my mother was getting very forgetful I had no idea how bad things were until my fathers death.
I had raised the issue of mums forgetfulness with my father just before his death and his response was “don’t say anything she will go mad” we now realise he was trying very hard to hide her illness.
We have found we are learning as we go along one foot at a time, I want my mum to stay in her house for as long as possible although she doesn’t know anyone in the street as I worry a change of surroundings may not be good for her, I work 45 hours plus per week so a lot of the care is given to my partner and she is doing an amazing job and I can never thank her enough.
Mum has good and bad days but won’t acknowledge dads passing so we get a continuous bombardment of he hasn’t come home yet, have you seen him, maybe he’s having an affair which we try to ignore but does become very painful as my father and I were more like best mates than father and son.
Dave.
My partner and I have been caring for my mother who has early to mid dementia after the sudden death of my father some 3 months ago. My parents live in a town 12 miles away and although I was always visiting at least 3 times a week and could see my mother was getting very forgetful I had no idea how bad things were until my fathers death.
I had raised the issue of mums forgetfulness with my father just before his death and his response was “don’t say anything she will go mad” we now realise he was trying very hard to hide her illness.
We have found we are learning as we go along one foot at a time, I want my mum to stay in her house for as long as possible although she doesn’t know anyone in the street as I worry a change of surroundings may not be good for her, I work 45 hours plus per week so a lot of the care is given to my partner and she is doing an amazing job and I can never thank her enough.
Mum has good and bad days but won’t acknowledge dads passing so we get a continuous bombardment of he hasn’t come home yet, have you seen him, maybe he’s having an affair which we try to ignore but does become very painful as my father and I were more like best mates than father and son.
Dave.