New Member - Mums paranoid Hi I am waiting for my mums diagnosis, she's 68. She is been going to the memory clinic and is now waiting for the results at the end of the month. She has been having the usual memory problems associated with dementia for a few years now which have steadily got worse. Now she has developed delusions, very quickly in the last few weeks, a lot of them paranoid. Some are nice, like she believes her mum sewed up a royal ladies wedding dress and she sees royals where they really would not be. They keep her happy but now its mostly paranoid stuff. This evening I have been trying to reassure her as she believes people like friends and their kids are working at the memory clinic and have breached her privacy by going through her family tree. She is worried they might be able to read all her private messenger chats. She had been sitting there making up simple alphabet codes and wanted me to put in secret code in to wikipedia so she can find out about it without being detected. Poor dad has tried to reassure her that at the next appointment he will check everything's okay, but no she wants to go around and have chat with poor accused women who does not even work there, with dad. She seems to think she is being watched by a company, that my brother does not actually work for and has ask him to call them off. There are loads of other stuff going on and she is very confused and anxious. Its difficult to find the balance between reassurance and going along with it. She can be somewhat reassured, but she is a very strong women, feisty, does not suffer fools gladly and very intelligent. Also I don't think Facebook is helping her, she sees stuff that it starts her off. I tried to gently encourage her to keep her friends list to family and close friends but she does not want to. One picture with someone having a lump on their arm, caused her to believe that dragon flies plant eggs under your skin. I'm also the family techie so I'm trying to work out a balance between moderating stuff that might make her think stuff and letting her have a connection to people for as long as possible, she likes all the photo's and I think its important for her to have that, but at the same time she is starting to see stuff in the photos that is not there. She must be in the early stages to still be able to use her tablet, but does anyone else have a problem like this. How can she do all this, put spend sooo much time looking for lost stuff. She can only focus on one thing at a time. Cant like look through the cupboard for cake and have the idea of ice cream as a maybe going on in the back of the mind. She's so different from dad now, its shocking. I am now finding myself kind of tip toeing around her, trying to work out how to respond as I know you cant correct her as its her reality, but I want to make her feel less anxious.