Hi I'm new to this not even sure I'm doing it correctly .
My mum is 68 had dementia for about 4 years .She seems to have got a lot worse these last 6 months .She can't be left alone .mood changes a lot can be happy jokey one minute ,crying next .
Her speech is muddled and doesn't have a conversation anymore .She can eat herself but my dad or I cook and clean etc .She refuses to bath and dad has a battle every day to get her dressed . In the evening she suffers from sundowning and dad usually ends up walking round the block once ,twice sometimes more ( looking for her home , her mum etc) She comes back exhausted but will not rest .She sleeps ok eventually.
I help dad as much as I can ,spending a couple hours a day either with dad or I take mum to give dad a rest .Hes exhausted and always asks me what he can do , he gets so upset especially when my mum cries and is frightened,or battles with him etc .
Does all this seem familiar.I suppose I just want someone to say this is what happens .When mum is so so exhausted but won't stop what can we do ? When dad wants to sleep and mum is up and down trying to leave the house at 1 in the morning ?Any advice will be greatly appreciated Thankyou
My mum is 68 had dementia for about 4 years .She seems to have got a lot worse these last 6 months .She can't be left alone .mood changes a lot can be happy jokey one minute ,crying next .
Her speech is muddled and doesn't have a conversation anymore .She can eat herself but my dad or I cook and clean etc .She refuses to bath and dad has a battle every day to get her dressed . In the evening she suffers from sundowning and dad usually ends up walking round the block once ,twice sometimes more ( looking for her home , her mum etc) She comes back exhausted but will not rest .She sleeps ok eventually.
I help dad as much as I can ,spending a couple hours a day either with dad or I take mum to give dad a rest .Hes exhausted and always asks me what he can do , he gets so upset especially when my mum cries and is frightened,or battles with him etc .
Does all this seem familiar.I suppose I just want someone to say this is what happens .When mum is so so exhausted but won't stop what can we do ? When dad wants to sleep and mum is up and down trying to leave the house at 1 in the morning ?Any advice will be greatly appreciated Thankyou