Hi
I have stumbled on this site while looking for help and advice as I don't know were to start.
My sister has had no contact with family for the past 20 years, it's mainly due to Alcohol, I have been contacted by a nursing home to tell me she has dementia, and has now been assessed as lost capacity.
All the family have totally washed their hands of her, I on the other hand felt that I should investigate her position.
I have been to visit her and feel nothing but compassion and need to do all I can for her.
Seen her for the first time in 20 years yesterday ,such a sad reunion.
I am so shocked at the standard of care home, it's absolutely filthy, the moment you enter all you hear is aggressive behaviour and was told by care staff "be careful of these individuals" there aggressive.
I found my sister in a box room on the top floor she is afraid to leave her room due to the overall atmosphere of the home.
My sister is a young 70 she is totally mobile able to look after her personal care, she entertains her self with lots of reading but every now and then slips into the past or a total fantasy world, she isn't violent just heart breaking vulnerable, She is in her room 19 hours a day and will only leave at meal times her mental capacity will deteriorate even further.
I am retired and have no extra money to pay for care, my sister is in the same boat and I have zero support from family.
What is my first steps ?
Social worker and someone from DOLLS department say this home is not right for my sister but are not offering me any advice.
Sorry for my introduction to this site to be so long, I have no one to talk to about this and can't think of anything else other than my sister's plight I feel desperate
Thanks for listening x
I have stumbled on this site while looking for help and advice as I don't know were to start.
My sister has had no contact with family for the past 20 years, it's mainly due to Alcohol, I have been contacted by a nursing home to tell me she has dementia, and has now been assessed as lost capacity.
All the family have totally washed their hands of her, I on the other hand felt that I should investigate her position.
I have been to visit her and feel nothing but compassion and need to do all I can for her.
Seen her for the first time in 20 years yesterday ,such a sad reunion.
I am so shocked at the standard of care home, it's absolutely filthy, the moment you enter all you hear is aggressive behaviour and was told by care staff "be careful of these individuals" there aggressive.
I found my sister in a box room on the top floor she is afraid to leave her room due to the overall atmosphere of the home.
My sister is a young 70 she is totally mobile able to look after her personal care, she entertains her self with lots of reading but every now and then slips into the past or a total fantasy world, she isn't violent just heart breaking vulnerable, She is in her room 19 hours a day and will only leave at meal times her mental capacity will deteriorate even further.
I am retired and have no extra money to pay for care, my sister is in the same boat and I have zero support from family.
What is my first steps ?
Social worker and someone from DOLLS department say this home is not right for my sister but are not offering me any advice.
Sorry for my introduction to this site to be so long, I have no one to talk to about this and can't think of anything else other than my sister's plight I feel desperate
Thanks for listening x