My lovely Nan has been diagnosed with dementia about 3 years ago not long after she gave up work, of late we have struggled which way to turn next unfortunately my Nan lives over 200 miles away, we have been trying desperately to get her closer to us, but much reluctance by her as she still sees her self as independent and lived in her little village for over 30 years, we found a warden controlled flat by us but she wouldn't accept it, she relies heavily on her neighbours and has constant reassurance off our family with up to 10 phone calls a day and we take a weekend a month to visit her and ask her to stay at ours for weeks at a time but the hussle and bussle of family life becomes to much for her, which Is why we try and visit her which we would love to be more but due to working full time and small children can be hard to do
Our main concerns are:
Carers they do a fantastic job and I can understand it will be hard but when we go down it seems to be all we do is clean her fridge out and try and get things in order rather than spending our time with her, the out of date food is really horrible, we are wondering are carers within there rights to clean her fridge or do we have to do it either way that's fine we are just concerned if she eats any of the out of date food it will make her really ill ( due to it mainly being meat)
At what point should we take control and make her move down for the good of her health and safety? But we don't want to upset her we just want her to be happy and safe we have tried to find a local group she could attend we're she live but had no joy which may give her a bit of independence and fun she must crave because all she seems to do is stay in the house.
Also how do we go about getting a more up to date assessment about her health due to I think we may be past the early stages now and maybe in the middle.
I think we just need a clear outline of what we can do for her to make her happy and safe.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated and sorry for the long post x
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Our main concerns are:
Carers they do a fantastic job and I can understand it will be hard but when we go down it seems to be all we do is clean her fridge out and try and get things in order rather than spending our time with her, the out of date food is really horrible, we are wondering are carers within there rights to clean her fridge or do we have to do it either way that's fine we are just concerned if she eats any of the out of date food it will make her really ill ( due to it mainly being meat)
At what point should we take control and make her move down for the good of her health and safety? But we don't want to upset her we just want her to be happy and safe we have tried to find a local group she could attend we're she live but had no joy which may give her a bit of independence and fun she must crave because all she seems to do is stay in the house.
Also how do we go about getting a more up to date assessment about her health due to I think we may be past the early stages now and maybe in the middle.
I think we just need a clear outline of what we can do for her to make her happy and safe.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated and sorry for the long post x
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