My Mum has been in N/H for 7 months & thankfully, settled. We live in Ireland & our son got married last sat in England. Many months ago, I spoke to my brother about our Mum going to the wedding. I said, my husband & myself would take her over on the plane & if he & his wife would look after her for the few days, as they lived nearby. Our son really wanted his Nan to be at his wedding. He said, I'm sure we'll sort something out & I rang him many times the last few months & he never mentioned looking after our Mum. He hardly ever rings her, it's me that always rings him & when his wife had breast cancer 18 months ago, I rang every 2 weeks to see how she was doing. I hadn't heard from him for 2 months, as I've stopped doing all the ringing. Our son's wedding was last sat & my brother rang me 6 days before the wedding & didn't ask how our Mum was. At the end of the conversation, he asked what did I decide to do about Mum at the wedding. I was upset & said, what could I do, I'd asked you ages ago if you'd look after her & you didn't do anything about it. Sadly, my Mum couldn't go to the wedding anyway, as she got the MRSA bug 2 weeks ago & also the nurse & GP suggested we didn't take her as she would be out of her routine & it would be like starting all over again, when we got back. They also suggested not to tell her about the wedding, which was hard keeping it to myself. It would have been too much for her, but so sad as she would have really enjoyed the day & seeing her 3 grandsons & 2 great-grandchildren. My husband & myself were very busy on the friday & wedding morning helping our son & daughter in law with the last few jobs to do. My brother & his wife were at the wedding & I was even more upset, as neither of them asked how our Mum was, especially having the MRSA. They kept to themselves, with their son & daughter in law. They hardly spoke to my husband's family, who they know quite well. We got back home to Ireland on monday afternoon & I went into to see my Mum on way home from the airport. Her memory is so bad now, she didn't mention that I hadn't been in. The hard thing for me is when I visited her on friday, she asked if I'd spoken to my brother. I felt so sad, she'd have been upset to think that I saw him on sat at the wedding & she wasn't there. I said, yes I have spoken to him & I asked if she'd heard from him, knowing full well that she hadn't. I asked her how she felt, that he doesn't ring her, she said, out of sight, out of mind. So very true, but all my growing up years, my brother could do no wrong, yet did nothing. My husband & myself, have looked after my mum last 2 years, until she went into N/H. We pay her bills etc & keep her bungalow going that is being rented out & deal with her needs for the N/H. It seems so one sided, I'm sure it's like that in a lot of families.