Hi everyone, I just joined this site after receiving the news that my Nan has passed away, and I needed to write this all down. I feel numb and tongue-tied, I keep breaking into tears but trying to stay strong for my Dad. I've never had to deal with a situation like this, my Grandad died when I was very young, so emotionally I feel very confused. She had been suffering with alzheimer's and dementia for a long time, being cared for at a nursing home in the Midlands. I feel horrible that I hadn't been to visit her in so long - I can sit here a spout off excuses as to why, but in all honesty it was just too painful. The last time I saw her she was at least responsive and mobile, and the care she received at the home was excellent. The doctors at the end said she succumbed to pneumonia, having breathing difficulties and also not being able to eat properly. There's been some tension in my family - my Dad doesn't really speak to his sister after she pretty much refused to involve herself in my Nan's care, leaving my Dad to take on the responsibility. He has had 2 strokes in the last year, including a leg infection, that has really taken it's toll on him. He's been amazing, even through his own illnesses he continued to put her first. I really don't want to say this - but I can tell that her passing will give him some relief, even though I know he is devastated. Everyone has been anticipating her passing, but now it's happened the cliche of having "just one more day" keeps ringing in my head. It puts everything into perspective.