my name is Mike, age 84, my wife has dementia and is in a care home
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You could ask for a new scan but there is no guarantee that your GP or consultant would agree to it.
If the GP or Consultant are satisfied that your wife has dementia they would probably not agree to a scan based on an article in the Cleveland Clinic, but as I said you can ask.
I do not think that is correct, but as I said the best thing is to contact the GP or the consultant.
Hello Mike I really feel for u when my mother came out of hospital after one of her many falls they put in a home 45 mins away from my dad who is 87,I spoke to my social worker and said I was worried about my father travelling so far at his age with all the added stress my mother has now been moved 15mins away from my dads home he’s so much happier also my mother is more content now maybe ur children can raise their concerns with social workers
You could still write to them and explain your concerns and ask them to call your wife in for a check up.
Hi @MIKESEYE I am sorry to hear about your situation and can understand how desperately you hope that things could be different. But I am afraid that the things that you have highlighted -- brain fog, appropriateness of medication and wanting a second opinion - will make no practical difference. My wife's Alzheimer's Disease is now advanced. She has been in her care home for almost 5 years. That is not what either of us wished for but it has been the best way to ensure that she gets the care she needs and deserves. She seems relatively content and I have learned to live with the situation.
With the best will in the world, I hope that you too can come to accept what you cannot change. Once dementia takes over a person's life there's really not much more that one can do. For me, accepting my wife's situation has meant that the stress of dealing with all the issues - major and minor - related to her care and welfare is no longer my primary concern. Our relationship is inevitably changed from what it was. By being her advocate, bringing a smile to her face, feeding her treats or simply sitting with her while she dozes I know that I still have an important role to play.
I do hope that this helps you in some way. This Forum is here for you whenever you need understanding and support.
With the best will in the world, I hope that you too can come to accept what you cannot change. Once dementia takes over a person's life there's really not much more that one can do. For me, accepting my wife's situation has meant that the stress of dealing with all the issues - major and minor - related to her care and welfare is no longer my primary concern. Our relationship is inevitably changed from what it was. By being her advocate, bringing a smile to her face, feeding her treats or simply sitting with her while she dozes I know that I still have an important role to play.
I do hope that this helps you in some way. This Forum is here for you whenever you need understanding and support.
💗 Hi Mike
Is that a photo of your wife on your profile ? It is hard seeing someone change so much and not having any control of anything. Do you have friends to talk to or other support, maybe not your children as their views might be different to yours.
I am not an expert but I know a friend who had no POA for her mother and had to go through the courts to have deputyship. That was a long and stressful process. You could still express your concerns with the gp though?
I keep telling myself that whilst this isn't how we want things it is pretty much the only option and I get your frustration and mine is with Dad not a partner. I wish we had a magic wand Mike on the forum and make everything okay but sending a cyber hug and hope today is a little kinder to you.
Keep posting if you find it helps someone is always listening 💗
Is that a photo of your wife on your profile ? It is hard seeing someone change so much and not having any control of anything. Do you have friends to talk to or other support, maybe not your children as their views might be different to yours.
I am not an expert but I know a friend who had no POA for her mother and had to go through the courts to have deputyship. That was a long and stressful process. You could still express your concerns with the gp though?
I keep telling myself that whilst this isn't how we want things it is pretty much the only option and I get your frustration and mine is with Dad not a partner. I wish we had a magic wand Mike on the forum and make everything okay but sending a cyber hug and hope today is a little kinder to you.
Keep posting if you find it helps someone is always listening 💗
