Hi, my name is Claire and I’m 57yrs old. I live in a house with my Mum Monica aged 78yrs old and my 28yr old son Charlie.
My Mum and I moved here together in 2000 when my sons were small children. In 2017 my Mum moved out to care for her long term partner and then husband Tom who had Parkinson’s. We lost Tom to Parkinsons in June 2022. Mum and I dealt with Tom’s estate and sold his house and then she moved back in here in May 2023. Since then there’s been a slow decline on a number of levels. She hasn’t taken up any of her hobbies from before caring for Tom. She hasn’t engaged with friends, she hasn’t returned to swimming or Pilates and she hasn’t walked the dog. She potters around the house and is useful - hoovers, does the washing up etc then spends all afternoon watching old Tv programmes one after another. But her aggressive behaviour is the real issue. There have been lots of minor arguments where she can become abusive quickly usually started by a minor disagreement like the colour of tiles or what the Jet petrol station used to be before it was Jet. Quite often I don’t see these spats coming. But there have been 7 occasions where
She has physically attacked me. She threw a box of files down on my head, threatened me with a hot cup of tea and a glass on another occasion, hit me full in the face with her fist, grabbed my glasses off my face and crushed them in her hands. Last week she threatened to stab my son. I wasn’t here and the argument was because she was freaking out over the time she was feeding the cats. She’s become totally OCD and it’s very stressful. He told her to calm down and she threatened to stab him. Then she apologised as though that’s ok and it’s all forgotten. I’ve begged her to see a GP but she won’t. Says I’m a liar. Calls me horrible names. Says she’ll sell the house - we are joint owners so she can’t just sell the house, calls me
a thief And says I stole from Tom - Tome left me money in his will - I’ve never taken money from her or stolen from anyone. Yesterday she attacked my son who was standing between her and me and he called the Police. I had blue lights outside my house. Today she being generally obnoxious. Throwing things, crashing around, banging doors. My Grandmother died with Alzheimer’s and today for the 1st time I have recognised symptoms I remember - the childish obnoxious behaviour. Iv messaged the GP but all they do is offer me a phone call consultation next week. I’ve done a phone call consultation before and all they did was send me links for mental health support for me. I need to get her assessed and for that I need her to agree to see a GP and I just don’t know where to start xxx
My Mum and I moved here together in 2000 when my sons were small children. In 2017 my Mum moved out to care for her long term partner and then husband Tom who had Parkinson’s. We lost Tom to Parkinsons in June 2022. Mum and I dealt with Tom’s estate and sold his house and then she moved back in here in May 2023. Since then there’s been a slow decline on a number of levels. She hasn’t taken up any of her hobbies from before caring for Tom. She hasn’t engaged with friends, she hasn’t returned to swimming or Pilates and she hasn’t walked the dog. She potters around the house and is useful - hoovers, does the washing up etc then spends all afternoon watching old Tv programmes one after another. But her aggressive behaviour is the real issue. There have been lots of minor arguments where she can become abusive quickly usually started by a minor disagreement like the colour of tiles or what the Jet petrol station used to be before it was Jet. Quite often I don’t see these spats coming. But there have been 7 occasions where
She has physically attacked me. She threw a box of files down on my head, threatened me with a hot cup of tea and a glass on another occasion, hit me full in the face with her fist, grabbed my glasses off my face and crushed them in her hands. Last week she threatened to stab my son. I wasn’t here and the argument was because she was freaking out over the time she was feeding the cats. She’s become totally OCD and it’s very stressful. He told her to calm down and she threatened to stab him. Then she apologised as though that’s ok and it’s all forgotten. I’ve begged her to see a GP but she won’t. Says I’m a liar. Calls me horrible names. Says she’ll sell the house - we are joint owners so she can’t just sell the house, calls me
a thief And says I stole from Tom - Tome left me money in his will - I’ve never taken money from her or stolen from anyone. Yesterday she attacked my son who was standing between her and me and he called the Police. I had blue lights outside my house. Today she being generally obnoxious. Throwing things, crashing around, banging doors. My Grandmother died with Alzheimer’s and today for the 1st time I have recognised symptoms I remember - the childish obnoxious behaviour. Iv messaged the GP but all they do is offer me a phone call consultation next week. I’ve done a phone call consultation before and all they did was send me links for mental health support for me. I need to get her assessed and for that I need her to agree to see a GP and I just don’t know where to start xxx
