Just as we thought we were getting ahead, finally getting mum out of the assessment ward, a violent episode happened last night at the care home where she has been for 5 days. This is not the first time. When she was first put into a dementia care home two months ago, she attacked the staff and did damage to them and the furniture. That's why she was sent to assessment. She has been moved now 5 times since leaving her home at 3:30 am in her nightclothes two months ago. We thought they had it all figured out now with the psychotic drug to calm her down.
I know all mum wanted was to be left in her own home, which due to a next of kin's eagerness to get her into a care home, has now been emptied of all her possessions and notice given.
I dread the thought of mum being sent to a mental hospital; the care home said they cannot have their staff attacked. I agree with this. My only hope would be to make a home with mum myself, but I don't know who to approach with this. The consultant will not speak directly to me and did not answer my last letter, and saw me this morning as he left the care home (who had called him out in an emergency), but walked right on by. I feel so shut out. There are episodes of wandering at night and not wanting to go to bed until 12 which is normal for her anyway. But the violence is a big problem.
Does anyone have any experience of violence whilst caring for a family member in the home? I just want to do what is best for her, and not go by my own emotions by wanting to care for her.
Gabriel
I know all mum wanted was to be left in her own home, which due to a next of kin's eagerness to get her into a care home, has now been emptied of all her possessions and notice given.
I dread the thought of mum being sent to a mental hospital; the care home said they cannot have their staff attacked. I agree with this. My only hope would be to make a home with mum myself, but I don't know who to approach with this. The consultant will not speak directly to me and did not answer my last letter, and saw me this morning as he left the care home (who had called him out in an emergency), but walked right on by. I feel so shut out. There are episodes of wandering at night and not wanting to go to bed until 12 which is normal for her anyway. But the violence is a big problem.
Does anyone have any experience of violence whilst caring for a family member in the home? I just want to do what is best for her, and not go by my own emotions by wanting to care for her.
Gabriel