Hello everyone,
I have just joined today as I'm feeling lost and am not sure where to turn. My mum has Alzheimers and over the past 6 months it has accelerated and now I feel we really need help but don't know what to do or who to ask or where to turn. I have been with Mum today to the "memory clinic" (first time for me). Normally Dad takes her but he is finding it very hard. I was very shocked and upset how the process went. After her memory test we were taken to see the doctor who asked her a series of questions like do you do the housework, cooking, cleaning, washing and shopping to which her answer was yes to all. The reality is of course no, she can't even make a cup of tea unassisted. I sat with my mouth wide open while the doctor asked her if she was happy with her medication and did she have any questions! After mum put her mind at ease the doctor said the next appointment is 6 months and bye! I took mum to the waiting room and returned to speak to the doctor alone and explain the reality of it all. So here I am, she told me she will send a letter to recommed 'respite care' and a letter to Social Services. Can anyone please give me any advice as to what we can expect now?
I am so shocked how a "memory clinic" obviously named so for a reason would be that way? Surely my mum is not the first person with Alzheimers to not know she isn't the one who does all around the house, she thinks she does because she can only remember a time when it was her that did it.
I'm so scared and sad for us all and what the future has in store. All I know is it's going to get worse and I don't know how my Dad or us will cope.
Thank you,
Jayne
I have just joined today as I'm feeling lost and am not sure where to turn. My mum has Alzheimers and over the past 6 months it has accelerated and now I feel we really need help but don't know what to do or who to ask or where to turn. I have been with Mum today to the "memory clinic" (first time for me). Normally Dad takes her but he is finding it very hard. I was very shocked and upset how the process went. After her memory test we were taken to see the doctor who asked her a series of questions like do you do the housework, cooking, cleaning, washing and shopping to which her answer was yes to all. The reality is of course no, she can't even make a cup of tea unassisted. I sat with my mouth wide open while the doctor asked her if she was happy with her medication and did she have any questions! After mum put her mind at ease the doctor said the next appointment is 6 months and bye! I took mum to the waiting room and returned to speak to the doctor alone and explain the reality of it all. So here I am, she told me she will send a letter to recommed 'respite care' and a letter to Social Services. Can anyone please give me any advice as to what we can expect now?
I am so shocked how a "memory clinic" obviously named so for a reason would be that way? Surely my mum is not the first person with Alzheimers to not know she isn't the one who does all around the house, she thinks she does because she can only remember a time when it was her that did it.
I'm so scared and sad for us all and what the future has in store. All I know is it's going to get worse and I don't know how my Dad or us will cope.
Thank you,
Jayne