My mum has been in a Care Home for nearly two years; we think she has a mix of Alzheimers and Vascular dementia. We weren't able to take her for scan as it was thought the detrimental effect of her leaving the Home outweighed knowing exactly what she was suffering with. My parents had been hiding the extent of her decline and when my dad died last February she had no capacity and after going for respite care, never went home again. My mum can be very un-cooperative and insists she owns the Care Home so can go where ever she likes, in and out of other resident's room, emptying drawers etc. She has hit people with her stick if she doesn't want to do what she is asked. I realise this is due to her condition and I talk with the Care Home workers so we can work out best strategies for whatever situations happen. She has no memory of people or places and usually looks straight through me as there is no recognition. Her speech is mostly garbled, but she is still eating and can usually go to the toilet on her own. She is still quite mobile. My mum had a fall a few months ago as she gets very tired as she refuses to go to bed at night. She had two black eyes and bashed her forehead. The Home explained exactly what happened.and I have faith in them; it's a small informal place and I have got to know a lot of the staff well.
She had another fall a couple of days again by stepping backwards and falling over a step; she has a badly bruised face and cuts on her arm as she scraped it down a door frame. I visited her this morning and she had ripped all the bandages off her arm, that the nurse had put on. She seemed really suspicious of everyone and was eyeballing the other residents and when I went to help her stand up from her chair, she said 'Don't kill me'' several times. I found this really distressing as it made me think something had happened and she thought people were trying to kill her. Has anyone else had experience of a PWD saying this? I'm hoping it's just another phase of her illness. She is 88 and the Care Home recently said that she no longer seemed to be on a plateau, but was on a 'steady decline', whatever that means .
She had another fall a couple of days again by stepping backwards and falling over a step; she has a badly bruised face and cuts on her arm as she scraped it down a door frame. I visited her this morning and she had ripped all the bandages off her arm, that the nurse had put on. She seemed really suspicious of everyone and was eyeballing the other residents and when I went to help her stand up from her chair, she said 'Don't kill me'' several times. I found this really distressing as it made me think something had happened and she thought people were trying to kill her. Has anyone else had experience of a PWD saying this? I'm hoping it's just another phase of her illness. She is 88 and the Care Home recently said that she no longer seemed to be on a plateau, but was on a 'steady decline', whatever that means .