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My Mum has been given Psychotics

Beverly L

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Apr 5, 2021
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Hi,
My Mum has been admitted to a care home as my step dad is in hospital and unable to care for her at home. She isn't getting on very well and feels she has been imprisoned. On arrival her behaviour deteriorated but then seemed to improve a little though she was still wanting to go home. Today they took her to the residents lounge and she kicked off so the emergency mental health team were called and she was given an anti psychotic. I'm really worried and just want to take her home but I know she wouldn't manage. Any advice would be gratefully received.
 

Sarasa

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Apr 13, 2018
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Hi @Beverly L and welcome to Dementia Talking Point This is a very friendly and supportive place.
My mother was also very unhappy when she moved to a care home. She was used to going out and about and tried to escape on frequent occasions. Unfortunalty she put herself at risk while she was at home by going out drinking with random men in her local pub and I felt I had no option but to move her into care. The mental health team proscribed lorazepam to calm mum down, and that worked to a degree though she still wants to go home. The home in question is her parent's house in the 1930s.
It's early days for your mum, so she may well settle. Being given anti-psychotics sound drastic, but if it improves her quality of life it is a good short term solution. I think it might be worth talking to the home's manager about how they are going to manage your mother's behaviour. It could be that the home isn't geared up for people whose dementia is challenging. Certainly my mother was on the edge of what her care home could cope with, as most of the residents are much more biddable than she is.
I'm sure others will be along soon with their thoughts and experiences, but in the meantime the search bar at the top of the bag is a good place to search for threads from others that have had similar experiences.
 

Beverly L

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Apr 5, 2021
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Thank you Sarasa that is really helpful, it's so difficult as keep swinging from normal lucid mum to Dementia confused and mum I don't recognise.
 

lemonbalm

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May 21, 2018
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Hello @Beverly L

It's incredibly upsetting when a loved one is so distressed but unfortunately not uncommon when they first move into a care home environment. Hopefully your mum will settle soon but, if not, ask about a medication review which can really help. As @Sarasa suggests, also ask about how the staff are dealing with it. They should be looking for any triggers which may be the cause of the distress and seeing if they can do things differently or at different times. There are many of us here who have been through the same thing and truly understand, so keep posting to let us know how things are going.
 

Beverly L

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Apr 5, 2021
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Thank you so much.
The care home are saying mum probably can't stay there. Apparently she has broken all the locks on the windows and tried to climb out of one today, luckily this set off an alarm and they were able to get her back in. I really don't know what will happen now 😕
 

Sarasa

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Apr 13, 2018
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So sorry to hear that. I think you need to look for somewhere that can better cope with your mother's needs. If you arranged the placement maybe look up EMI homes in your area and see if there is one that will meet your mother's needs. If social services were involved I guess you and the home need to talk to them about what happens next.
It is a worry, but the sooner your mum is settled somewhere that is a better match, the sooner she will start to settle.
We have several poster on here who have had similar experiences, so hopefully one ill be along soon with their suggestions
 

lemonbalm

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May 21, 2018
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I'm sorry to hear that @Beverly L

I had to move my mum to a specialist dementia home due to her "challenging behaviour" (I don't really like the term, as it sounds as they are being difficult on purpose). She managed to get out of the previous home, thumped a carer, broke a door., smashed some glass. It's really distressing to think of our parent in this state, I'm sorry. I suppose I was fortunate in that the care home gave me plenty of time to find somewhere else but it wasn't easy. There was only one care-home (I looked round a lot of them!) which was prepared to take mum and it's not always gone well there but the staff genuinely care for her and love her to bits, partly due to her "feisty nature". The place oozes kindness and they are able to deal with a variety of behaviours with compassion and humour.

It's possible that your mum will calm down with the right medication or will have to be moved elsewhere. Do you have help trying to find somewhere else? I didn't but could really have done with some.

Let us know how things are going and we'll try to help you along. You can take some comfort from the fact that it is very unlikely your mum will remember any of this once she has settled either there or elsewhere.
 

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