Thankyou again for your kindness in sharing your experiences. You have known a lot of sadness...L
Love to you, too! Hang in there. It’s a hard slog but it does become more bearable. And true: I agree with what you and another poster have said, it does come in patches. As time goes by, these become further apart. For me, now, after nearly 15 years, I am only struck by sorrow every six months or so. A couple of times a year I guess. And still I am so bowled over by the feeling until I remember, “Oh yes, I know what you are! You are grief. How strange I’d forgotten.” Be kind to yourself. And by the way if people eventually start expecting you to buck up, ignore them. It takes as long as it takes and everyone is different. After only ten months you are still in the first throes. I do so WISH now I hadn’t kept criticising myself for not “getting over it” faster. The first time I had this unrealistic expectation of myself was only three weeks after my son’s death. What was I thinking???!!! Love again, Carolyn.
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