I mentioned in another thread that my mother is going into a NH on May 6th.
I am a bit worried about how things will go on admission day. Some nursing homes seems to feel that it is necessary to inform the person moving in that they are going to live there permanently and then they insist on having a conversation with them about what expectations they have for their stay there...
Well, this is probably the politically correct way of doing things, but I hope they are sensible enough to realise that this is not allways the most practical (or compassionate) way of going about it.
Even my mother's doctor says about her: "She has no insight into her own illness and she is severely disoriented regarding her own situation"
My mother's understanding of her situation is (and has been for several years)that she's feeling "a bit under the weather" but that she'll be fine in day or two. She still thinks she pays the bills, does the shopping, the cooking, the cleaning, the laundry and so on. In her mind there is nothing wrong with her and telling her that she's going into a NH permanently would upset her quit a lot. (She would probably be furious actually) And what would be the point? Her short term memory is non exitant and she will not remember anything for more than a few minutes.
My mother has mixed dementia (Alzheimer and Vascular). She has severe pain from arthritis and rhumatism and she is constantly "dizzy" - caused according to her doc by restricted blood flow to the brain. When she has gone into respite care we have told her that she is going in to have her pain medication adjusted and to see if they can do something about her dizzyness. She accepts this.
I hope this is what we can do this time as well. Then we'll have to see how it goes and perhaps gradually bring some of her things and photoraphs in to try to make a home for her there.
I'll let you know how things go.
Erik
I am a bit worried about how things will go on admission day. Some nursing homes seems to feel that it is necessary to inform the person moving in that they are going to live there permanently and then they insist on having a conversation with them about what expectations they have for their stay there...
Well, this is probably the politically correct way of doing things, but I hope they are sensible enough to realise that this is not allways the most practical (or compassionate) way of going about it.
Even my mother's doctor says about her: "She has no insight into her own illness and she is severely disoriented regarding her own situation"
My mother's understanding of her situation is (and has been for several years)that she's feeling "a bit under the weather" but that she'll be fine in day or two. She still thinks she pays the bills, does the shopping, the cooking, the cleaning, the laundry and so on. In her mind there is nothing wrong with her and telling her that she's going into a NH permanently would upset her quit a lot. (She would probably be furious actually) And what would be the point? Her short term memory is non exitant and she will not remember anything for more than a few minutes.
My mother has mixed dementia (Alzheimer and Vascular). She has severe pain from arthritis and rhumatism and she is constantly "dizzy" - caused according to her doc by restricted blood flow to the brain. When she has gone into respite care we have told her that she is going in to have her pain medication adjusted and to see if they can do something about her dizzyness. She accepts this.
I hope this is what we can do this time as well. Then we'll have to see how it goes and perhaps gradually bring some of her things and photoraphs in to try to make a home for her there.
I'll let you know how things go.
Erik
Last edited: