Hi all,
I care for my 85 year old mother who is in the middle stages of dementia and in April was also diagnosed with breast cancer. But due to her demntia they said they couldnt operate but put gave her medication (letrozole) I stay with mum 24/7 and will always be there for her but recently my brother came to stay after losing his own home, after al That’s what family is for isn’t it? To be there when times are hard.
Then mum started to say things to me that to my shame thought it was the dementia or even the medication talking! Mum kept asking me not to leave her alone with my brother ever again. And really didn’t take much notice as she adores my brother he’s her baby boy the youngest of four girls. Then mum started to become withdrawn and I knew this wasn’t normal, so I reluctantly hid a camera in the front room to see if anything was going on . As I watched the film back I felt sick to the stomach! My brother was shouting and screaming at my poor mum and asking where her purse is. Even demanding her PIN number to draw money from her account obviously mum couldn’t remember.then he pulled her up by ten collar of her pyjamas just to push her down again. So without even giving it a second thought I called the police. They saw the video and arrested him! And good riddance to the low life, but now my mum hates me! She is so spiteful to me and says the most wicked hurtful things to me saying that it was my fault her baby boy has left her and it should have been me. I have tried to explain to her what happened but I’m just a liar! It’s getting so hard to care for someone who I feel hates me especially as I love her to the moon and back. And all she wants is the robbing bully boy who treats his own mother who has dementia and cancer like dirt! I know there’s nothing anyone can do but it helps just to write this down and share it with others helped me so much so thank you all for just letting me do this.
❤️❤️
I care for my 85 year old mother who is in the middle stages of dementia and in April was also diagnosed with breast cancer. But due to her demntia they said they couldnt operate but put gave her medication (letrozole) I stay with mum 24/7 and will always be there for her but recently my brother came to stay after losing his own home, after al That’s what family is for isn’t it? To be there when times are hard.
Then mum started to say things to me that to my shame thought it was the dementia or even the medication talking! Mum kept asking me not to leave her alone with my brother ever again. And really didn’t take much notice as she adores my brother he’s her baby boy the youngest of four girls. Then mum started to become withdrawn and I knew this wasn’t normal, so I reluctantly hid a camera in the front room to see if anything was going on . As I watched the film back I felt sick to the stomach! My brother was shouting and screaming at my poor mum and asking where her purse is. Even demanding her PIN number to draw money from her account obviously mum couldn’t remember.then he pulled her up by ten collar of her pyjamas just to push her down again. So without even giving it a second thought I called the police. They saw the video and arrested him! And good riddance to the low life, but now my mum hates me! She is so spiteful to me and says the most wicked hurtful things to me saying that it was my fault her baby boy has left her and it should have been me. I have tried to explain to her what happened but I’m just a liar! It’s getting so hard to care for someone who I feel hates me especially as I love her to the moon and back. And all she wants is the robbing bully boy who treats his own mother who has dementia and cancer like dirt! I know there’s nothing anyone can do but it helps just to write this down and share it with others helped me so much so thank you all for just letting me do this.
❤️❤️