This has been a long road but next week I will be going with my mom to get the results of her neuro-psych evaluation. The test was over two days and took almost five hours. I called the doctors office to see if he would mention getting durable POA because my mom is VERY resistant to anyone controlling her money but she can barely do her online banking anymore and keeps making many mistakes and forgets how to log in, forgets passwords, etc..
Anyhow the doctor called me back and told me that he was already planning to bring up the DPOA at our meeting. He shared with me that my mom has "significant impairment" based on the testing and analysis. Of course I already knew this because she lives right next to me and I see her daily. This will be the first time that a doctor will be telling her that she has dementia. I have never used that word to her, and just knowing this appointment is coming up is giving me crushing anxiety and depression. I'm so worried about my mom's reaction and having to face she has this horrible disease. I swear a cancer diagnosis would be better than this! My mom is losing her mind on a daily basis and I'm having a really hard time coping.
One of my many fears is she will refuse to do the DPOA with me and then I will have to eventually petition the court for guardianship. I'm in the US and from what I understand petitioning for guardianship is a costly and lengthy process.
I'm trying to get my "ducks in a row" the best I can, but what can I do if my mom doesn't cooperate? I'm so worried about the future and how this will get even worse. I started counseling for depression but so far it's not helping. Nothing can/will change that my mom has this horrible thing happening to her and both of our lives are forever changed. (for the worse)
I just needed to get this out. I'm not coping very well and aside from my husband I don't have much support. It's difficult to talk to friends, and in the last year I've begun to isolate because of it.
Thanks for reading.
Anyhow the doctor called me back and told me that he was already planning to bring up the DPOA at our meeting. He shared with me that my mom has "significant impairment" based on the testing and analysis. Of course I already knew this because she lives right next to me and I see her daily. This will be the first time that a doctor will be telling her that she has dementia. I have never used that word to her, and just knowing this appointment is coming up is giving me crushing anxiety and depression. I'm so worried about my mom's reaction and having to face she has this horrible disease. I swear a cancer diagnosis would be better than this! My mom is losing her mind on a daily basis and I'm having a really hard time coping.
One of my many fears is she will refuse to do the DPOA with me and then I will have to eventually petition the court for guardianship. I'm in the US and from what I understand petitioning for guardianship is a costly and lengthy process.
I'm trying to get my "ducks in a row" the best I can, but what can I do if my mom doesn't cooperate? I'm so worried about the future and how this will get even worse. I started counseling for depression but so far it's not helping. Nothing can/will change that my mom has this horrible thing happening to her and both of our lives are forever changed. (for the worse)
I just needed to get this out. I'm not coping very well and aside from my husband I don't have much support. It's difficult to talk to friends, and in the last year I've begun to isolate because of it.
Thanks for reading.