My poor old dad is on his way out. He's currently in the local hospital's end of life unit on the Liverpool Care Pathway. He isn't the one with dementia but my mother is and she is causing the unit, my son who's 13 and me no end of problems. I just wondered if anybody had any advice? I phoned the local AS office but they couldn't suggest anything constructive.
Basically, since my Dad was transfered to the unit on Thursday my mother has refused to leave the unit. On the first night they said she was wandering around the unit, going into people's rooms, and on the Friday they asked me to come in and stay with her. I think if they knew she's was going to be such a problem they would never have allowed her to stay that first night.
She's not taking any of her medication, barely eating and is totally irrational. Every time they tell her he's dying it's like they're telling her anew and she becomes totally upset. She also read his notes in which her dementia's mentioned and absolutely blew her top on the Friday saying all she suffered from was a little memory loss.
It's got to a point where I sit in the lounge and pop into my Dad's room when she's in the loo just so as I don't wind her up and set her off. I know she's ill but I'm not sure I'll ever be able to forgive her for making my Dad's passing a hundred times harder than it need be.
Has anybody else been through something similar and able to find some solution? Currently I'd like her pumped full of haloperidol but I realise that's just me being very, very mean.
Basically, since my Dad was transfered to the unit on Thursday my mother has refused to leave the unit. On the first night they said she was wandering around the unit, going into people's rooms, and on the Friday they asked me to come in and stay with her. I think if they knew she's was going to be such a problem they would never have allowed her to stay that first night.
She's not taking any of her medication, barely eating and is totally irrational. Every time they tell her he's dying it's like they're telling her anew and she becomes totally upset. She also read his notes in which her dementia's mentioned and absolutely blew her top on the Friday saying all she suffered from was a little memory loss.
It's got to a point where I sit in the lounge and pop into my Dad's room when she's in the loo just so as I don't wind her up and set her off. I know she's ill but I'm not sure I'll ever be able to forgive her for making my Dad's passing a hundred times harder than it need be.
Has anybody else been through something similar and able to find some solution? Currently I'd like her pumped full of haloperidol but I realise that's just me being very, very mean.