Hello there - i've recently joined, hello I need some help though. I am at the end of my tether. Mum has vascular dementia but still lives on her own. with her dog Jasper. My sister and myself give her wraparound care but live in our own homes. Trouble is mum's dog, Jasper. He is a 15kg dog now weight over 21kg. She just cannot see that she is over-feeding him. the vet has spoken to her and the dog has been to a weight clinic but mum knows best and won't listen. We have put up notices of what to feed him. We have changed his food to low-fat food to help, but this isn't making any difference. She actually wakes the dog up to give him more food. His main problem is that she keeps feeding him custard creams instead of his own biscuit treats. He doesn't get much exercise, mainly because my mum is 82 and can't go too far, but even so, he has absolutely no energy and is beginning to look like a little coffee table. I feel the dog needs to be taken away but i know this will break her heart, recently being widowed as well. Any ideas? I've run out of thoughts and just think the dog will end up with a heart attack. She has already said that she will have another dog when he goes!! I think not :-(