Hello
I haven't posted for a while but wanted to say that neighbours in my mum's cul-de-sac have been becoming increasingly anti me over the last year. It was firstly Mum's adjacent neighbour over a year ago, a lady who was believing everything Mum was telling her (negative things about me) which resulted in her calling my integrity into question and doubting my motives. I am the only daughter who does anything for Mum and have always been there for her. This lady neighbour was coming in and going through Mum's private affairs including finances and such like, taking her to the bank (which wasn't necessary) and saying nasty things about me that I wasn't doing enough. I have been dealing with the doctors for at least 4/5 years and the dementia services for 2 years, but as my Mum will not accept any intervention and the services say she has capacity, there is little more I can do than shopping, keep her company, do her domestic admin etc, she won't go to any groups and she is verbally nasty to me (calling me a *****, a *****, a thief, telling me I'm selfish, I'm hard as nails etc etc) and I can honestly say I have given over so much of my time and care. Other neighbours are now becoming antagonistic towards me for no reason (I used to know them quite well) and one of the male neighbours texted me and said 'if I don't stop my mum from saying inappropriate things they will take next steps'. He also said 'I was inactive and needed to take ownership of the situation'. I was so so upset and angry when I have been battling with this single handedly for years and they have no idea what goes on behind the scenes. They have just made judgments and assumptions but for some reason it has hit me very hard. I think I'm just all of out of resources and energy. The dementia services in my area told me to report his text to the police which I have now done and the centre are being very supportive which is good. I am changed forever with all that's happened, it is so so sad, angry-making, depressing, futile at times, exhausting, the abuse hurts so much even though I know it's the disease.
Has anyone experienced difficulties with neighbours? Just a similar tale might help me not feel so alone.
Thank you. Sarah
I haven't posted for a while but wanted to say that neighbours in my mum's cul-de-sac have been becoming increasingly anti me over the last year. It was firstly Mum's adjacent neighbour over a year ago, a lady who was believing everything Mum was telling her (negative things about me) which resulted in her calling my integrity into question and doubting my motives. I am the only daughter who does anything for Mum and have always been there for her. This lady neighbour was coming in and going through Mum's private affairs including finances and such like, taking her to the bank (which wasn't necessary) and saying nasty things about me that I wasn't doing enough. I have been dealing with the doctors for at least 4/5 years and the dementia services for 2 years, but as my Mum will not accept any intervention and the services say she has capacity, there is little more I can do than shopping, keep her company, do her domestic admin etc, she won't go to any groups and she is verbally nasty to me (calling me a *****, a *****, a thief, telling me I'm selfish, I'm hard as nails etc etc) and I can honestly say I have given over so much of my time and care. Other neighbours are now becoming antagonistic towards me for no reason (I used to know them quite well) and one of the male neighbours texted me and said 'if I don't stop my mum from saying inappropriate things they will take next steps'. He also said 'I was inactive and needed to take ownership of the situation'. I was so so upset and angry when I have been battling with this single handedly for years and they have no idea what goes on behind the scenes. They have just made judgments and assumptions but for some reason it has hit me very hard. I think I'm just all of out of resources and energy. The dementia services in my area told me to report his text to the police which I have now done and the centre are being very supportive which is good. I am changed forever with all that's happened, it is so so sad, angry-making, depressing, futile at times, exhausting, the abuse hurts so much even though I know it's the disease.
Has anyone experienced difficulties with neighbours? Just a similar tale might help me not feel so alone.
Thank you. Sarah