Worse diagnosis confirmed
Hi, I hope all you caring carers are well. Mum is still in hospital. I saw her today, she looked absolutely awful. From a few days ago the weight has dropped off her, I don't think anyone watches to see what she eats.
It was confirmed today that she has inoperable cancer, bowel, liver & lungs. They have given her less than a year. I'm so upset. They want to send her home. She lives alone, how can they possibly send her home to an empty house when she doesn't know what day it is. Shes become doubly incontinent & the hospital said the SS will means test her savings and her property(she owns a big house) to fund her care. Shes soooo confused, I'd rather she was looked after at home where her surroundings are familiar to her rather than go into a home as I know she will fret herself to death. I dont know which way to turn, she seems to be unimportant to the hospital now they can't cure her. The Macmillan nurses have been mentioned. Do we have to let the SS means test mum? would we be able to fund her care at home without the SS getting involved. So far they haven't had anything to do with her. Any thoughts/help would be much appreciated. Lyn
Hi, I hope all you caring carers are well. Mum is still in hospital. I saw her today, she looked absolutely awful. From a few days ago the weight has dropped off her, I don't think anyone watches to see what she eats.
It was confirmed today that she has inoperable cancer, bowel, liver & lungs. They have given her less than a year. I'm so upset. They want to send her home. She lives alone, how can they possibly send her home to an empty house when she doesn't know what day it is. Shes become doubly incontinent & the hospital said the SS will means test her savings and her property(she owns a big house) to fund her care. Shes soooo confused, I'd rather she was looked after at home where her surroundings are familiar to her rather than go into a home as I know she will fret herself to death. I dont know which way to turn, she seems to be unimportant to the hospital now they can't cure her. The Macmillan nurses have been mentioned. Do we have to let the SS means test mum? would we be able to fund her care at home without the SS getting involved. So far they haven't had anything to do with her. Any thoughts/help would be much appreciated. Lyn
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