Hi all
After an incident of wandering in the the night “looking for help from her neighbours” and locking herself out late one night to go to the doctors we finally made the decision mum of 96 yrs should go into a lovely care facility we’d had the good the fortune of securing a room locally
Mum was fine for the first couple of weeks, happy to see us and ok when we left but things have changed since last weekend and she’s become verbally aggressive ( like she had been towards me before she went in) is refusing to eat/ drink/ go to her room to sleep and has become rude to staff
And wants to go home! Not to her previous one but the one before
The staff think it could be a urine infection but as she’s not drinking much it’s hard to get a urine sample
It will be mums 4 week review next week and I’m afraid the care home might say she can’t stay as she’s so awkward and aggressive
It was the hardest decision we’ve had to make for mum to go to a care facility for her safety and to be with company but now I am feeling twice as bad that she’s discontent
I would be so grateful for any advice , whether this is how change affects people living with dementia? it’s so heartbreaking as I was thinking we’d made a good decision but now I’m doubting myself as she’s so miserable
😞
After an incident of wandering in the the night “looking for help from her neighbours” and locking herself out late one night to go to the doctors we finally made the decision mum of 96 yrs should go into a lovely care facility we’d had the good the fortune of securing a room locally
Mum was fine for the first couple of weeks, happy to see us and ok when we left but things have changed since last weekend and she’s become verbally aggressive ( like she had been towards me before she went in) is refusing to eat/ drink/ go to her room to sleep and has become rude to staff
And wants to go home! Not to her previous one but the one before
The staff think it could be a urine infection but as she’s not drinking much it’s hard to get a urine sample
It will be mums 4 week review next week and I’m afraid the care home might say she can’t stay as she’s so awkward and aggressive
It was the hardest decision we’ve had to make for mum to go to a care facility for her safety and to be with company but now I am feeling twice as bad that she’s discontent
I would be so grateful for any advice , whether this is how change affects people living with dementia? it’s so heartbreaking as I was thinking we’d made a good decision but now I’m doubting myself as she’s so miserable
😞