Mum has alzheimers, possibly with VD also. She was diagnosed in jan & is now living with us.
Her GP & Consultant felt she was unable to live alone unsupported and the choice was here with us, or a care home.
She is 84 and has been barking for at least 2 years.....since Jan, when I was flying backwards & forwards fortnightly to see/take care of her we (my brother & I) felt that moving in with me would be the best option.
She has been with us for 4 months now, and her brother came to visit last week.
Since the visitors left she has been behaving badly - crying all the time, disruptive etc.
He has told her that she is just old and that he cant understand that she cant live in her own home (he hasnt said this to me, but has spoken to my brother since the visit and said that he felt mum was unhappy here and he saw nothing wrong with her except old age and a bad memory).
He refuses to listen to the fact that Alz is a diagnosis and that getting it is not a normal part of the aging process. She is also on anti-psychotic drugs to control the hallucinations, which were quite bad (and are reappearing).
She was refusing to take medication when she lived at home, refusing to eat( her fridge was full of rotten and out of date food), refusing to leave the house, making abusive phone calls in the night to neighbours and flooded the downstair flat (because the guy is a smoker). She has accused people of stealing (even relations) and can no longer cook for herself.
But he thinks she is fine.
The last couple of days have been very stressful and yesterday I visited a care home that does day care and respite - this is the direction we are4 heading for or else I will go mad.
How can I explain this to him - that she is ill and cannot possibly live in her own home? He just dosnt get it - and as such he is now telling other relations that Im forcing her to stay!
Her GP & Consultant felt she was unable to live alone unsupported and the choice was here with us, or a care home.
She is 84 and has been barking for at least 2 years.....since Jan, when I was flying backwards & forwards fortnightly to see/take care of her we (my brother & I) felt that moving in with me would be the best option.
She has been with us for 4 months now, and her brother came to visit last week.
Since the visitors left she has been behaving badly - crying all the time, disruptive etc.
He has told her that she is just old and that he cant understand that she cant live in her own home (he hasnt said this to me, but has spoken to my brother since the visit and said that he felt mum was unhappy here and he saw nothing wrong with her except old age and a bad memory).
He refuses to listen to the fact that Alz is a diagnosis and that getting it is not a normal part of the aging process. She is also on anti-psychotic drugs to control the hallucinations, which were quite bad (and are reappearing).
She was refusing to take medication when she lived at home, refusing to eat( her fridge was full of rotten and out of date food), refusing to leave the house, making abusive phone calls in the night to neighbours and flooded the downstair flat (because the guy is a smoker). She has accused people of stealing (even relations) and can no longer cook for herself.
But he thinks she is fine.
The last couple of days have been very stressful and yesterday I visited a care home that does day care and respite - this is the direction we are4 heading for or else I will go mad.
How can I explain this to him - that she is ill and cannot possibly live in her own home? He just dosnt get it - and as such he is now telling other relations that Im forcing her to stay!