Hi, I'm so glad I have found this forum, my partners' 87 year old Mum has recently gone into a lovely care home following a month in hospital. Whenever he, or his brother visit, she is crying and sad and asking to 'go home'. As others have found, they are experiencing extreme emotional stress with this situation. Care home staff have offered to prescribe his Mum a sedative to help calm her down before their visits, but the family don't know what it is and it doesn't sit very well with them. His Mum has a lovely personal carer, is engaging with residents, and eating well, so the family are confident she is in the right place. However, they fear that if they don't visit for a few weeks, although she will continue to settle, she may forget who they are, or that just by seeing them again, it will still trigger those memories and sadness in their Mum and the process will start again.