Hi all, Am new to this forum. My mum has dementia and is still at home with Dad. We've had issues with the house smelling and have isolated and kind of got the smells associated with mum semi-undercontrol - helping her shower, sneakily doing her laundry and housecleaning etc becausee she doesn't like us (her daughters) interfering. We've had her checked out and she is not incontinent. But her dog which is old but seemingly doing ok - wees everywhere and has hideous stinky drool. Dad says the vet says not much we can do cos he's old - exploratory surgery too expensive. The difference in Mum is that she doesn't care - definitely can't smell it any more. She lets the dog sit on the sofa all day - it stinks, she lets him sit/sleep on her bed, the dog just wees anywhere and my Dad sometimes notices and just gets a wet mop and very quickly mops it but not with any disinfectant - Dad just seems to turn his back on things at the moment - another issue. Mum seems to think it's fine to have the dog's food just straight on the floor - no bowl - the wet food - so constant smell of that too. For a while we thought oh the dog will die soon but he hasn't. I'm now being the pushy one in the family for change - as in a new sofa, bed/bedding (cheapish and then keep them covered to protect from the dog) - because if we don't change things the dog may live for another 6 months and that's 6 months of mum's life where we can't invite friends and family round to visit (she loves visitors in small numbers), where my mum AND dad live in a stinky house, my little kids are only going to have a memory of my mum and her stinky house. I know mum is happy and safe and healthy(relatively) which is great. We have tried hospital strength room deoderisers, ammonia, bicarb soda. So my question???? If I go and change all these things it's probably going to upset her - but I know if the shoe was on the other foot - she would be horrified if I lived in a stinky house. It causes lots of stress in the family because we have best intentioned others commenting on the smell that is quite insensitive - as if we are letting her and Dad live like that by choice. Has anyone else had this type of issue?