I am new here - and would be so grateful for help and advice. I think my 86 year old mum has some form of dementia - she is confused, is losing speech, has memory problems and cannot spell fairly simple words. The doctor arranged an appointment for a memory test for her over a year ago but she cancelled and will not discuss it or visit the doctors. She relies on me for everything which is fine, but she is becoming more difficult to cope with. There is mouldy food in her fridge which she will not allow me to throw out (she got quite aggressive today when I tried to discuss it with her) and doesn't recognise money (she asked my son 'what is this' when she took a 50p from her purse.) She is also becoming very suspicious of me, saying I want her dead, and accused my son of eating all her food (he had a biscuit). She shouts at me frequently and nothing I do is right. There is just me to cope with her - my brother lives 2 hours away and is often abroad. His answer is to 'make her go to the doctors' but has no ideas how to make her. I just want to do the best for her, but came away from her house today feeling a failure. Please help me.