Hi All,
We moved Mum into a care home only yesterday, really wonderful place, great carers etc but Mum has reacted so badly to it. Pacing the corridors, she has set the fire alarm of twice which opens all the doors so she or others could get out. She is so unhappy and when we popped by this morning they made it clear in the nicest possible way that she was High Risk and they were not making any promises that she could stay.
We are at our wits end, we didn't expect her to settle immediately but this extreme behavior is so frightening. My sister and I have both gone home now (we both live 60 miles away) but I feel awful leaving her but we were not helping her at all or offering her any comfort. She was beyond that.
I am so scared we have done the wrong thing and if it doesn't work out we have ruined the routine she had at home albeit she wasn't safe anymore and was wandering but this feel so much worse.
Has anyone else had a similar experience of such an extreme reaction. Should we just take her home?
I just feel desperate, this is just like a feeling of loss and grief.
We moved Mum into a care home only yesterday, really wonderful place, great carers etc but Mum has reacted so badly to it. Pacing the corridors, she has set the fire alarm of twice which opens all the doors so she or others could get out. She is so unhappy and when we popped by this morning they made it clear in the nicest possible way that she was High Risk and they were not making any promises that she could stay.
We are at our wits end, we didn't expect her to settle immediately but this extreme behavior is so frightening. My sister and I have both gone home now (we both live 60 miles away) but I feel awful leaving her but we were not helping her at all or offering her any comfort. She was beyond that.
I am so scared we have done the wrong thing and if it doesn't work out we have ruined the routine she had at home albeit she wasn't safe anymore and was wandering but this feel so much worse.
Has anyone else had a similar experience of such an extreme reaction. Should we just take her home?
I just feel desperate, this is just like a feeling of loss and grief.