Hi I am posting this because I am confused. I looked after my Mum for 30 years after losing my Dad to a sudden heart attack. The last 6 years she had demenita, 3 years of which I looked after her in her own home going round serveral times a week the best I could and the last 3 years because of other complications in her health in a care home. I still visited her several times a week in the evenings and always either took her out on saturday or this last few months sat with her. I still work fulltime but would do it all again in a heartbeat. She passed away peacefully last sunday week with all her children round her. It was beyond words but so grateful to be there with her, she looked at me with no fear or pain at the last she was so tired and just slipped away. When I got home I sat on my front doorstep and wept my heart out but since then apart from a few tears now and then I have felt a strange calmness. I expected to be completely distraught for days or weeks and although life is strange at the moment that has not happened and I almost feel guilty. Has anyone else felt like this, I could not have wished her to suffer anymore at the end but dont understand my feelings now. This is a very seflish post because its about me so I hope fellow members understand.