Hi, Mum, 85 and in the stages of advanced Alzheimers is now laying down pretty much all of the day and night, she doesn't really know any of us, can't remember how to lay on the bed, if she does get up, she then gets back by crawling up the end of the bed on all fours! She is refusing all personal care, won't get changed, however still uses the toilet so far! We are supposed to have a weeks respite next week for the first time, I can't see how we will get her to the care home for the week! We haven't had more than a weekend away in nearly 3 years as couldn't leave mum, so my sons and their wives looked after her for our 2 or 3 weekends away! We only received an assessment for help in December, so a carer comes in every morning supposedly to wash, change her, give her a cup of tea/weetabix, however in the 3 weeks since this started, they have managed to wash her twice! She lives in a self contained granny annexe adjoined to our house, I am constantly going in/out to see her and check everything is OK, another thing she keeps doing is to leave the tap running, a neighbour knocked the door the other night to say her water was running when she left the Close and still running on her return! She seems to be deteriorating quickly to me. Sorry for the waffling, I do find the Alzheimers has taken over my life almost! It is such a wicked disease!