I know there is no easy answer to this, but mum is having to move from her nice cosy dementia home that she likes to and EMI Nursing home tomorrow. When the new home did the assessment i explained to mum what was happening, and she became distressed, agitated, vocal and upset, oh and mad. Why did she have to leave? What had she done wroing? she said. I said nothing its because there will be more staff and nurses who can look after her. But the ranting continued. A few days later she has forgotton all about the move and i am having to move her at 10.30 tomorrow. I have no idea what to say to her. I don't want to lie but the minute i tell the truth then i have to deal with the consequences. Feeling sad. The new home has a good reputation but its much larger, less cosy and more like a nursing home. A lot more people who are much more poorly than mum. Mum has dementia with lewy bodies so will be lucid at times asking why she has to be with these people. But then at other times she can display mild challenging behaviour and is very vocal.