Hi
I've been doing Mum's washing for months now as I told the care home to stop doing it as Mum's clothes were always going astray and she never had any underwear when I visited!
This has stopped the clothes (on the whole) going missing but Mum is increasingly putting clean clothes in the basket which I then have to wash as the clean ones have got smelly. After a couple of days her wash basket is nearly full! I've tried removing some of her cardigans etc. so she hasn't got so much clothing but she still keeps putting loads in the basket. Has anyone else had this problem and if so any suggestions?!
We had Mum to stay over Christmas for three nights and other than her getting up in the night which left me feeling shattered it went well. When it came to taking Mum back to the Care Home it was awful she was ok going back but when we left she wanted to come with us and was banging on the doors when we left.
Mum had a fall in the home yesterday and as we are still on holiday from work we took Mum out for lunch today. When we arrived the smell as soon as you walk in the home made me want to gag and at 11.45am Mum was in her room attempting to get dressed with her clothes on over the top of her nightie. Should the home not be getting Mum dressed or is it the norm to be leaving the residents not dressed/half dressed? On a few occasions now we have arrived at about midday and she's either still in her nightie or not dressed, is this right?
We took Mum to the garden centre which is about the only place you can take her round here when the weather's not great and I think she enjoyed it.
However I'm really struggling, I feel drained, I've tried speaking to a Counsellor in the past but it didn't to be honest help.
I have to go back to work next Tuesday and I'm dreading it, I work full time and visit Mum after work and either she either comes to us for a day at the weekend or we take her out somewhere.
I feel so guilty that she's in the home and I don't feel well in myself. I keep getting hot sweats, I'm irritable, keep crying and feeling sick and dizzy. The doctor said that I had low blood pressure and asked me if I was under any stress and I burst into tears.
I feel like I'm at my wits end
I've been doing Mum's washing for months now as I told the care home to stop doing it as Mum's clothes were always going astray and she never had any underwear when I visited!
This has stopped the clothes (on the whole) going missing but Mum is increasingly putting clean clothes in the basket which I then have to wash as the clean ones have got smelly. After a couple of days her wash basket is nearly full! I've tried removing some of her cardigans etc. so she hasn't got so much clothing but she still keeps putting loads in the basket. Has anyone else had this problem and if so any suggestions?!
We had Mum to stay over Christmas for three nights and other than her getting up in the night which left me feeling shattered it went well. When it came to taking Mum back to the Care Home it was awful she was ok going back but when we left she wanted to come with us and was banging on the doors when we left.
Mum had a fall in the home yesterday and as we are still on holiday from work we took Mum out for lunch today. When we arrived the smell as soon as you walk in the home made me want to gag and at 11.45am Mum was in her room attempting to get dressed with her clothes on over the top of her nightie. Should the home not be getting Mum dressed or is it the norm to be leaving the residents not dressed/half dressed? On a few occasions now we have arrived at about midday and she's either still in her nightie or not dressed, is this right?
We took Mum to the garden centre which is about the only place you can take her round here when the weather's not great and I think she enjoyed it.
However I'm really struggling, I feel drained, I've tried speaking to a Counsellor in the past but it didn't to be honest help.
I have to go back to work next Tuesday and I'm dreading it, I work full time and visit Mum after work and either she either comes to us for a day at the weekend or we take her out somewhere.
I feel so guilty that she's in the home and I don't feel well in myself. I keep getting hot sweats, I'm irritable, keep crying and feeling sick and dizzy. The doctor said that I had low blood pressure and asked me if I was under any stress and I burst into tears.
I feel like I'm at my wits end