Hello
My mother who is 95 has been in a Nursing Home for just over eight weeks, previous to that she was in a residential care home for nearly five years.
My mother is a very private person and when she was in her previous care home she spent the majority of the time in her room, she even had her meals in her room, the Home Manager and carers did try and coax my mother to come out of her room but the only time she would is when myself and my husband came down to see her.
After a lengthy stay in hospital last year, my mother was diagnosed with vascular dementia last year and her previous care home asked us to find another care home for mum as they were no longer able to meet her long term care needs, my mother's mobility declined and at times even though she could move her legs she was unable to walk, but at other times she could walk short distances but needed to be supervised. We found a Nursing Home for mum and she moved there in May. As my mother is prone to falling and has fallen twice whilst she has been in her room the carers have been taking my mother into the lounge/dining room for her meals and once the meal has finished they settle my mother into a comfy chair so they can keep an eye on her. The problem is my mother does not always like sitting in the lounge and would prefer to be in her room, but because she sometimes tries to get up and unclips her alarm the carers are worried that she will fall and hurt herself. Today when we went to see my mother I felt so sorry for her she was asking to go home saying she did not like sitting in the lounge and that all the people in the lounge were strangers, I tried to explain why she was in the lounge, but because of her dementia she does not realise that she is putting herself at risk by trying to get out of her chair and unclipping her alarm. I felt so guilty leaving her today and I wished I could have done something or said something to help her. I did make the carers aware that she was unsettled and that she wanted to go back to her room, but I do appreciate their position and that the safety of my mother is their main concern - tricky.
I would welcome any advice on this. Thank you very much.
My mother who is 95 has been in a Nursing Home for just over eight weeks, previous to that she was in a residential care home for nearly five years.
My mother is a very private person and when she was in her previous care home she spent the majority of the time in her room, she even had her meals in her room, the Home Manager and carers did try and coax my mother to come out of her room but the only time she would is when myself and my husband came down to see her.
After a lengthy stay in hospital last year, my mother was diagnosed with vascular dementia last year and her previous care home asked us to find another care home for mum as they were no longer able to meet her long term care needs, my mother's mobility declined and at times even though she could move her legs she was unable to walk, but at other times she could walk short distances but needed to be supervised. We found a Nursing Home for mum and she moved there in May. As my mother is prone to falling and has fallen twice whilst she has been in her room the carers have been taking my mother into the lounge/dining room for her meals and once the meal has finished they settle my mother into a comfy chair so they can keep an eye on her. The problem is my mother does not always like sitting in the lounge and would prefer to be in her room, but because she sometimes tries to get up and unclips her alarm the carers are worried that she will fall and hurt herself. Today when we went to see my mother I felt so sorry for her she was asking to go home saying she did not like sitting in the lounge and that all the people in the lounge were strangers, I tried to explain why she was in the lounge, but because of her dementia she does not realise that she is putting herself at risk by trying to get out of her chair and unclipping her alarm. I felt so guilty leaving her today and I wished I could have done something or said something to help her. I did make the carers aware that she was unsettled and that she wanted to go back to her room, but I do appreciate their position and that the safety of my mother is their main concern - tricky.
I would welcome any advice on this. Thank you very much.
