I am sad exhausted and on the verge of tears. One day mum was her usual forgetful and muddled self when I visited her in her small dementia unit which has carers day and night but is classed as supported living. A couple of days later she had a stroke/TIA but quickly regained the use of her right side but her cognitive ability has deteriorated dramatically. She no longer seems able to recognise me and my sisters and has had absolutely horrendous episodes of sobbing, distraught looking for her little girls and the one that is dying and sick. My youngest sister has a chronic debilitating illness from a childhood brain tumour and has had significant periods when she has been close to death as a child. The unit rang me late evening to come as they could not console her. (I live 40 mins away) by the time I got there she was just exhausted though not crying just in a very bad mood and very unset about my sister. It took me endless rounds of the rosary to calm her down - she joined in and said the words. I then spent time just cuddeling her in bed until she settled. When we agreed to mum transfering to the unit we were told that they do their best to keep people there to end of life and reassured that only one resident in 8 years had to leave the unit for violent behaviour and basically unless a residents behaviour significantly impacts on others residents stay. Mums distress must have impact on others and in the last 2 months 3 residents have gone to nursing homes. Any suggestions re: how do I handle mum - when she is so distress and does not understand it is her daughter that is trying to comfort her? Also what can I do re this issue that despite being initially told that only one resident in 8 years has had to leave the unit there seems to be a disturbing picture of residents being sent to elsewhere arising.