My mum has been in a care home for nearly twelve months, before that she was in her own home with 24 hr carers for two years since being diagnosed with dementia. She has had an uti for three weeks now, which she has had antibitotics but not getting any better. Yesterday the doctor phoned to say she thinks she has had another stroke, as her speech is slurred. She now cant drink as it just comes straight out of her mouth so they are giving her jelly. She also has got very blue and cold arms and legs. The doctor said she needed to know if we wanted her to go in hospital to put on drip, or leave her in home . She is extremely poorly and we choose to leave her in her care home and get pallitive care there, i am worried whether we are doing right thing. She has no quality of life left in her, but this decision is hard for my sister and me.