Thank you to everyone who has supported me on here and replied to my posts. This is just to let you know that my Mum suddenly passed away in the early hours of this morning. I was actually due to visit this weekend with my step father. No one got a chance to say goodbye as it all happened so quickly. I’m relieved my Mum has been released from this awful disease but feel overwhelmed about arranging her funeral as it’s not something I’ve ever had to do before. My step father just isn’t capable of doing all that much.
Mum Has Gained Her Wings
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I am so sorry to read about the passing of your mum @Firecatcher. Sending you condolences and wishing you strength for the days and weeks ahead.
@Firecatcher, sorry to hear about your mum, after all the struggles it must be a strange time for you. Yes funerals etc can be a challenge but in time it will be done and hopefully you can find a way to be at peace with this. Take care xx
I’m so sorry @Firecatcher
There’s no hurry to arrange the funeral. Get your thoughts in order and you will be fine
The funeral director will be all too willing to help and advise you.
There’s no hurry to arrange the funeral. Get your thoughts in order and you will be fine
The funeral director will be all too willing to help and advise you.
I have found Funeral Directors to be really kind and supportive, doing their best to make things as easy as possible for you.
Take a day or two to have a damn good cry and gather your thoughts.
Take a day or two to have a damn good cry and gather your thoughts.
I’m so sorry @Firecatcher
So many mixed emotions for you.
As others have said, no rush - you can do things in your time and in your way.
So many mixed emotions for you.
As others have said, no rush - you can do things in your time and in your way.
So sorry for your loss @Firecatcher, take your time. There are helpful sites if you need them -they will guide you step by step as to what needs to be done and when. As for arranging the funeral, let the funeral directors guide you if you have no fixed plan/thoughts.
Take care and be kind to yourself x
Take care and be kind to yourself x
Condolences on your loss, @Firecatcher. There's no hurry to have the funeral, and it doesn't have to be expensive or elaborate. Many people are now having a small private cremation for the close family, often with a celebration of life at a later date. There is also the option of a direct cremation. The funeral directors will guide you but don't feel that you have to have 'all the trappings'.
Sorry for your loss @Firecatcher
Your mum's at peace and you say she's "gained her wings"
After you given yourself a chance to let things settle at bit, you'll now have to support your stepfather?
Your mum's at peace and you say she's "gained her wings"
After you given yourself a chance to let things settle at bit, you'll now have to support your stepfather?
I’m so sorry to hear that news @Firecatcher. That must have been a big shock, but your mum is now at peace.
My mum died last autumn and I found the funeral directors to be excellent. Mum
Wasn’t religious and they found us a very good celebrant who helped my brother and I organise a funeral that was exactly right for our mum.
My mum died last autumn and I found the funeral directors to be excellent. Mum
Wasn’t religious and they found us a very good celebrant who helped my brother and I organise a funeral that was exactly right for our mum.
Sending condolences to you @Firecatcher at this awful time. Take each day as it comes, and remember to be kind to yourself. You will find the strength to do this, I’m doing it too at the moment also. Remember to eat drink and sleep.
Remember you are not alone. ❤️
Remember you are not alone. ❤️
Sorry to hear this and hope your step father is ok too.
The whole system registrars through to funeral directors are very kind and know that you won’t be at your best. They will guide you through the options, advise on cost and tell you want to do when.
I think one of the first jobs has to be to clear possessions out of the care home, then it’s done. Just put stuff somewhere in a cupboard or room with a door until you are stronger
The whole system registrars through to funeral directors are very kind and know that you won’t be at your best. They will guide you through the options, advise on cost and tell you want to do when.
I think one of the first jobs has to be to clear possessions out of the care home, then it’s done. Just put stuff somewhere in a cupboard or room with a door until you are stronger
Sorry to hear about your loss. Condolences to you and your dad.
It is always a shock when death isn't unexpected imminently.
As has been said the funeral directors should guide you with the options.
It is always a shock when death isn't unexpected imminently.
As has been said the funeral directors should guide you with the options.
Sorry to hear about your loss @Firecatcher
Wishing you peace and strength for the foreseeable future.
S x
Wishing you peace and strength for the foreseeable future.
S x
