Hi all, looking for some guidance here, feels like we have nowhere to turn for help.
Dad has been looking after mum for a little over 4 years in their own home.
Dad has no problem doing the shopping, cleaning etc (he is 80 soon) Previously, we had carers 3 times per day, paid privately.
After the (4 years long) usual accusations of theft and dad having an affair, mum finally managed to climb out of a window in the middle of the night and went to some neighbours and accused my dad of abuse.
The Police were called and she was sectioned and placed in a secure facility.
Since then the police have spoken with the neighbours to ascertain if here was any truth to the allegations, which is incredibly stressful for my dad.
Now the facility that she is in have been treating her with a wonder drug and the hallucinations have somewhat levelled out.
But now they are implying that mum should or could be discharged into my dads care, back at home.
Dad is incredibly stressed out with this as its clear that mum would require 24 hour care and he can't be awake for 24 hours a day.
The angle from the facility doctors is that specialist carers could be provided and mum is almost fit to return home.
We tried carers before, and it wasn't a help at all, mum would tell them to go away.
My understanding is that after a patient is sectioned, the onus is on the care facility to provide an adequate care package.
Dad simply cannot cope with mum at home, even with carers it would make him a prisoner in his own home.
The facility has started talking about discharging mum into the hands of Dad which he simply cannot cope with.
Dad called mum's GP and they just gave him a phone number to call for assistance, I think this is incredibly unfair.
For reference both of my parents have paid into the NHS their entire lives and have always worked, never claimed anything.
My dad and myself (son) both believe that Mum can't be managed at home, where do we go from here?
Dad has been looking after mum for a little over 4 years in their own home.
Dad has no problem doing the shopping, cleaning etc (he is 80 soon) Previously, we had carers 3 times per day, paid privately.
After the (4 years long) usual accusations of theft and dad having an affair, mum finally managed to climb out of a window in the middle of the night and went to some neighbours and accused my dad of abuse.
The Police were called and she was sectioned and placed in a secure facility.
Since then the police have spoken with the neighbours to ascertain if here was any truth to the allegations, which is incredibly stressful for my dad.
Now the facility that she is in have been treating her with a wonder drug and the hallucinations have somewhat levelled out.
But now they are implying that mum should or could be discharged into my dads care, back at home.
Dad is incredibly stressed out with this as its clear that mum would require 24 hour care and he can't be awake for 24 hours a day.
The angle from the facility doctors is that specialist carers could be provided and mum is almost fit to return home.
We tried carers before, and it wasn't a help at all, mum would tell them to go away.
My understanding is that after a patient is sectioned, the onus is on the care facility to provide an adequate care package.
Dad simply cannot cope with mum at home, even with carers it would make him a prisoner in his own home.
The facility has started talking about discharging mum into the hands of Dad which he simply cannot cope with.
Dad called mum's GP and they just gave him a phone number to call for assistance, I think this is incredibly unfair.
For reference both of my parents have paid into the NHS their entire lives and have always worked, never claimed anything.
My dad and myself (son) both believe that Mum can't be managed at home, where do we go from here?
