Hi everyone I'm new to the forum. My mum is 92 and has vascular dementia. She has been living alone in her own house since my dad died 17 years ago. Her dementia has progressed pretty quickly over the past year, she also has heart failure. I have been her main carer, she had home carers too but was starting to open the door to her house all hours of day and night. My husband and me had to go round a number of times when her door sensor triggered to put her back to bed. Five weeks ago she ended up in hospital with yet another bout of pneumonia, she got better because she is fairly fit despite all and they wanted to discharge her, but my sister and me said no we didn't think it was safe. We had been thinking about residential care anyway but the huge cost and upheaval for mum seemed to much to put her through. Now....in a month, her capacity has gone, she's deprived of her liberty, she will lose her home and live with strangers. I can't bear it even though I know it's going to be safer. On her better days mum says I should have just left her at home instead of getting an ambulance, how do I cope with this guilt and sadness? Thank you 🙏 xxx