my mum is end of life and i feel so sad guilty and frightened of being without her . i was told 3 weeks ago mum had days or weeks. i promised dad i would always look after mum at my home and when dad died in may mum came to live with us as we,d planned- 4 days later mum had pneumonia and was in hosp for quite a while. during the short time mum was with us it became very clear to me that i would not be able to look after mum or do what we and dad wanted. i had been my mum and dads carer in their own home for the last 8yrs, dad cancer, mum alzheimers - we are very close and i spent nearly everyday with them and did anything i could to help them we were still going on holiday together as we,d always done up just before covid but feel i have really let them down on the most important thing- mum is bedridden, incontinent, cannot feed herself, sit up says very little etc etc- she has been the most wonderful mum to me and i dont even know if she knows me. when i visited today in the nursing home she said 'help me' i am now questioning my actions - have i really tried as hard as i could- my daughter asked me had i considered bringing mum back home to us , all mums care for her final days any medication etc has been sorted at the care home but i just dont want my mum passing to be like this t- i want my mum as happy as is possible but i really dont know what to think anymore, please if anyone has been like this i would appreciate any comments.