My 87 year old mum is becoming more demanding of my time and although I do as much as I possibly can, it's never enough. I've recently reduced my working hours so that I can spend a bit more time with her but I'm getting irate phone calls at all times demanding to know where I am as she is "on my own". I've explained I have to work sometimes but when I've suggested that she might like to attend a day centre or similar to provide a bit of company, she's adamant she "likes being on my own"! The almost hourly phone calls are beginning to get me down. In all other respects, she's able to look after herself and we don't get any help of any description as she's always refused it. I don't live with her but visit at least twice a day for an hour or so each time and she spends most Saturdays and Sundays with me.
I don't think I'm being unreasonable in not being with her 24/7 but it's also clear that her confusion and memory loss are much reduced when she's in company (mine or anyone else for that matter). How can I pursuade her to accept a day centre or other outside company?
I don't think I'm being unreasonable in not being with her 24/7 but it's also clear that her confusion and memory loss are much reduced when she's in company (mine or anyone else for that matter). How can I pursuade her to accept a day centre or other outside company?