Hi
I posted a while ago explaining I'd always had a very difficult relationship with my mum.
For years she has said I never do enough for her, and lots of comments implying I'm the worst daughter imaginable!
Anyway since she's had dementia and my dad has become ill she has been less focused on me.
She was sectioned a couple of months ago and I find visiting her extremely stressful due to the other patients on the ward and their different mental health problems. It's a very unpredictable environment and fills me with dread each visit.
Anyway on Sunday I took her out for the day to see my dad, have lunch with her, then she came to my house for a while before I had to drop her back to the psychiatric ward.
So Monday she rang me many times. I was at college all day but spoke to her in the evening.
I was surprised to see she was back to her old ways. She made several nasty comments about how I didn't care about her or my dad. Lastly she told me I wasn't a very nice person. At this point I said "bye mum" and hung up.
I have two young children, 1 is autistic, I have college and other commitments. I now have to juggle visiting my mum and my dad neither of which are that near where I live.
I am also pregnant! Very early days so am absolutely exhausted.
I have stuck by my mum all these years because I felt sorry for her despite the abuse.
The doctors rang me today to ask how her outing had gone and told me she's been telling everyone I don't do enough etc. then
I have done above and beyond for both my parents especially all of last year.
I know some of my mums behaviour is down to her illness but she has always been like this with me.
I suppose what I am asking for is people's opinions. Should I visit less? Or should I continue to put myself through hell when my visits don't even seem to lift her mood and she doesn't appreciate it anyway?!
Thanks
I posted a while ago explaining I'd always had a very difficult relationship with my mum.
For years she has said I never do enough for her, and lots of comments implying I'm the worst daughter imaginable!
Anyway since she's had dementia and my dad has become ill she has been less focused on me.
She was sectioned a couple of months ago and I find visiting her extremely stressful due to the other patients on the ward and their different mental health problems. It's a very unpredictable environment and fills me with dread each visit.
Anyway on Sunday I took her out for the day to see my dad, have lunch with her, then she came to my house for a while before I had to drop her back to the psychiatric ward.
So Monday she rang me many times. I was at college all day but spoke to her in the evening.
I was surprised to see she was back to her old ways. She made several nasty comments about how I didn't care about her or my dad. Lastly she told me I wasn't a very nice person. At this point I said "bye mum" and hung up.
I have two young children, 1 is autistic, I have college and other commitments. I now have to juggle visiting my mum and my dad neither of which are that near where I live.
I am also pregnant! Very early days so am absolutely exhausted.
I have stuck by my mum all these years because I felt sorry for her despite the abuse.
The doctors rang me today to ask how her outing had gone and told me she's been telling everyone I don't do enough etc. then
I have done above and beyond for both my parents especially all of last year.
I know some of my mums behaviour is down to her illness but she has always been like this with me.
I suppose what I am asking for is people's opinions. Should I visit less? Or should I continue to put myself through hell when my visits don't even seem to lift her mood and she doesn't appreciate it anyway?!
Thanks