I'm not sure if I'm being unrealistic and I'm expecting too much?
Mum has been in a care home for just over a fortnight. She told me she was lonely last night and wanted to leave.
Mum can't really remember much at all but she seems more confused than ever lately. She does however look well, she eats well and the carers seem kind and caring. Mum does say that the carers are lovely.
I know that she is safe, warm and well fed but it is her emotional needs that I am very concerned about.
This did appear to be the nicest home out of the 7 I visited and the CQC rating was good.
The problem is that most of the residents seem worse than Mum, quite a number are slumped in wheelchairs and there doesn't appear to be anyone that can communicate with her.
The staff quite rightly have most of their time taken up with the residents who are more dependent and I'm not sure how much time/company my Mum is getting.
There are up to 38 people and 7 carers in the morning and 5 in the afternoon, when I call in the evenings the carers are always rushing around and I have been told that they are working at full pace because of the complexity of the residents.
The last few times I have gone up Mum is sitting in an armchair in front of a TV with all the other residents asleep and I don't feel she is at this stage.
I contacted the manager about various points asking if they could test for a UTI as she seemed more confused than usual, asking if Mum had a key worker, the lack of a displayed activity sheet and this week although there is normally day care three times a week the organiser was off because its half term.
They were asked to keep an eye on Mum when she was admitted as although she gets herself dressed she doesn't always change her underwear and on the third day I could see that Mum patently hadn't changed her underwear.
When I went up there last night Mum wanted to go to the toilet but was distressed as both of the toilets were really dirty and I had to call someone to clean one before she could go.
I have contacted the Office of Protection as I have L.P.A. to ask if I looked after Mum would it be in order to cover my salary from Mum's account. My salary would be less a month than the care home fees.
I would have to fill in numerous forms and these would have to be considered by a judge as well as have to pay £300.00. There is also the matter of a backlog which means it would take approximately 4 months for the case to be heard!
I would really appreciate it if you could let me know your thoughts on this and from anyone who has taken their parent out of a care home.
Thank you.
Mum has been in a care home for just over a fortnight. She told me she was lonely last night and wanted to leave.
Mum can't really remember much at all but she seems more confused than ever lately. She does however look well, she eats well and the carers seem kind and caring. Mum does say that the carers are lovely.
I know that she is safe, warm and well fed but it is her emotional needs that I am very concerned about.
This did appear to be the nicest home out of the 7 I visited and the CQC rating was good.
The problem is that most of the residents seem worse than Mum, quite a number are slumped in wheelchairs and there doesn't appear to be anyone that can communicate with her.
The staff quite rightly have most of their time taken up with the residents who are more dependent and I'm not sure how much time/company my Mum is getting.
There are up to 38 people and 7 carers in the morning and 5 in the afternoon, when I call in the evenings the carers are always rushing around and I have been told that they are working at full pace because of the complexity of the residents.
The last few times I have gone up Mum is sitting in an armchair in front of a TV with all the other residents asleep and I don't feel she is at this stage.
I contacted the manager about various points asking if they could test for a UTI as she seemed more confused than usual, asking if Mum had a key worker, the lack of a displayed activity sheet and this week although there is normally day care three times a week the organiser was off because its half term.
They were asked to keep an eye on Mum when she was admitted as although she gets herself dressed she doesn't always change her underwear and on the third day I could see that Mum patently hadn't changed her underwear.
When I went up there last night Mum wanted to go to the toilet but was distressed as both of the toilets were really dirty and I had to call someone to clean one before she could go.
I have contacted the Office of Protection as I have L.P.A. to ask if I looked after Mum would it be in order to cover my salary from Mum's account. My salary would be less a month than the care home fees.
I would have to fill in numerous forms and these would have to be considered by a judge as well as have to pay £300.00. There is also the matter of a backlog which means it would take approximately 4 months for the case to be heard!
I would really appreciate it if you could let me know your thoughts on this and from anyone who has taken their parent out of a care home.
Thank you.