Hi - I'm new to this forum and up until last week my mum (who has dementia, 72) was able to be cared for at home. However, finances meant my brother and I had to take the decision to look for a care home. Mum moved into this one (the first neglected her so badly she lost all mobility and almost 2 stone in weight in less than 3 weeks) last Friday, and I am trying to help her settle in, pacify her, ensure the care is adequate/meets her needs (she has significant visual impairment as result of dementia), whilst I am also upset at having to put her in a home, upset at knowing she is in a stressful environment, knowing shes going to spiral downhill, and I can feel myself starting to unravel trying to deal with all of this and my full time job which involves overseas travel. I live alone and I feel as though I am alone dealing with all of this as friends haven't been in touch and when they have it has been blasé text messages which then makes me angry that they don't realise what I'm going through. I'm not sure what to do about all this but I needed to get that out. Sorry.