Out of the blue, my husband has received an incredible 'once in a lifetime' job offer but the catch is that we would need to move abroad for it. We are minded to go as it is unlikely that this type of offer will ever come again but the massive sticking point is that we will be leaving behind my parents.
Leaving aside the fact that I'm stuck between the stark choices of feeling guilty for leaving or feeling resentful for not being able to leave, I wondered if anyone might be able to offer any advice on caring from afar?
Background in brief: Dad provides day to day 'care' for my mother who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's/dementia last year. During the previous 6 years or so he has spent a great deal of time complaining to me about Mum's symptoms but very little, if any time doing anything proactive to help himself or her. To be frank a lot of what he does makes things worse. I got Mum diagnosed and she's now in the system as far as the medical side of things is concerned. They are both pretty isolated socially and Dad's the type that waits for help to find him rather than searching things out for himself. Currently I'm a two hour drive from them and I'm the only daughter in the UK.
Leaving aside the fact that I'm stuck between the stark choices of feeling guilty for leaving or feeling resentful for not being able to leave, I wondered if anyone might be able to offer any advice on caring from afar?
Background in brief: Dad provides day to day 'care' for my mother who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's/dementia last year. During the previous 6 years or so he has spent a great deal of time complaining to me about Mum's symptoms but very little, if any time doing anything proactive to help himself or her. To be frank a lot of what he does makes things worse. I got Mum diagnosed and she's now in the system as far as the medical side of things is concerned. They are both pretty isolated socially and Dad's the type that waits for help to find him rather than searching things out for himself. Currently I'm a two hour drive from them and I'm the only daughter in the UK.