This is all new to me and happened really quickly since a GP visit in early September.
Mum was sent straight to hospital as the GP decided mum was not safe at home living on her own. Following a best of interest meeting on a Friday, where I mentioned that possibly moving mum nearer to me in Norfolk would be a good idea and being told as there are no vacancies in the Medway area, so this would be a possibility.
It was my job to have a look round in Norfolk to see if I could find a suitable care home. After going to see only one possible, SS were phoning me at work hassling me to make a decision as the hospital needed their bed back and if the home had a vacant bed then they could move mum the next day.!!! I totally understand that the hospitals and the bed situation is difficult, but this is a human being, who is very confused and scared and really wants to go home to her own flat.
I took a second look at the care home and it was in the budget that Medway would cover, with a small top up from me and it seemed quite nice, although I hadn't seen any others to compare it with, so feeling in a bit of a daze said yes to it!!!
Mum was moved the following Sunday and has been at the care home almost 2 weeks. There were no follow on notes to give the care home from the hospital and my sister and I are both really unsure if mum is being looked after as she should be. There was no time for the care home to do an assessment on mum prior to the move, so we are all really in the dark.
I am feeling extremely guilty that I have let my mum down. I am therefore working a full time job, then going to see my mum every evening to help her settle there.
I have no idea what treatment for the dementia she will be getting, if any, and I feel like it is just a case of dumping her in the home to let her illness do its worst.
Her belongings keep going missing, including her glasses all day on Wednesday so when I arrived she couldn't really see me and was not only walking around confused, but nearly blind too!
The glasses turned up in another residents room when I went to nurses to inform them that mum couldn't see and had lost her glasses.!!
It seems like a free for all with the residents belongings in the home. Last night mum had someone else's purse and handbag, but mums handbag has gone missing! luckily I have her purse at home, so there was nothing of value in her bag.
I guess this is something we need to get used to, but it all seems quite awful.
The whole thing has been a nightmare and it seems like 6 weeks ago we were able to have a proper conversation with mum and she was just a bit forgetful and repeated herself a bit. Is this normal for things to deteriorate so quickly??
Mum was sent straight to hospital as the GP decided mum was not safe at home living on her own. Following a best of interest meeting on a Friday, where I mentioned that possibly moving mum nearer to me in Norfolk would be a good idea and being told as there are no vacancies in the Medway area, so this would be a possibility.
It was my job to have a look round in Norfolk to see if I could find a suitable care home. After going to see only one possible, SS were phoning me at work hassling me to make a decision as the hospital needed their bed back and if the home had a vacant bed then they could move mum the next day.!!! I totally understand that the hospitals and the bed situation is difficult, but this is a human being, who is very confused and scared and really wants to go home to her own flat.
I took a second look at the care home and it was in the budget that Medway would cover, with a small top up from me and it seemed quite nice, although I hadn't seen any others to compare it with, so feeling in a bit of a daze said yes to it!!!
Mum was moved the following Sunday and has been at the care home almost 2 weeks. There were no follow on notes to give the care home from the hospital and my sister and I are both really unsure if mum is being looked after as she should be. There was no time for the care home to do an assessment on mum prior to the move, so we are all really in the dark.
I am feeling extremely guilty that I have let my mum down. I am therefore working a full time job, then going to see my mum every evening to help her settle there.
I have no idea what treatment for the dementia she will be getting, if any, and I feel like it is just a case of dumping her in the home to let her illness do its worst.
Her belongings keep going missing, including her glasses all day on Wednesday so when I arrived she couldn't really see me and was not only walking around confused, but nearly blind too!
The glasses turned up in another residents room when I went to nurses to inform them that mum couldn't see and had lost her glasses.!!
It seems like a free for all with the residents belongings in the home. Last night mum had someone else's purse and handbag, but mums handbag has gone missing! luckily I have her purse at home, so there was nothing of value in her bag.
I guess this is something we need to get used to, but it all seems quite awful.
The whole thing has been a nightmare and it seems like 6 weeks ago we were able to have a proper conversation with mum and she was just a bit forgetful and repeated herself a bit. Is this normal for things to deteriorate so quickly??