Last Thursday i moved dad over to the new home that was offered to us. After feeling so worried that he would not settle even though i was told that they could deal with him if he had another out burst of aggression and the worry of him having to go back to that terrible hospital. He seems to be OK and seems to like it so far. Evan after almost begging me not to take him on Thursday. I promised him that this place would look after him much better and help him on the road to recovery. I don't know if i am doing the right thing by telling him he will be well enough to come home soon with the help of the people where he is, but he seems to respond to me telling him this and the other day he said "i will be ready to come home soon won't i ?" I hope that this will help to keep his hopes up and maybe stay with me longer, but like i said i don't know if i am doing the right thing it just seem best for now. One thing i like about this place is when i ring up on the days that i can't get in i always seem to get a nice response and they are willing to talk to me and inform me that he is doing OK. At the hospital i was made to feel like a pest and there was no interest. I have noticed that i am finding it much harder to understand him and can't help thinking that as a result i am failing him in someway as i am all he really has, the one person that makes some sense in his life. He never forgets who i am, as he is beginning to do so with the rest of our family, whether this has to do with i see him almost every day or every other day, and the rest of the family are not regular in seeming him. I have to say i am so scared of him forgetting me. Yesterday he did not want to sit with me all of a sudden and would not give me a kiss goodbye and i find this hard to deal with, even though i know he does not mean it, but him forgetting who i am scares the hell out of me. At least whilst he still knows me and recognises me i still have part of him. I used to go and see him in hospital everyday and my home life with my husband and children was becoming a strain as i was never in. So i go now every other day and that is what scares me that he will think i am not there for him.
Sorry, i have gone on and on again, but had to get it off my chest am i wrong in think this way. Thanks for listening
Elise
Sorry, i have gone on and on again, but had to get it off my chest am i wrong in think this way. Thanks for listening
Elise